Hi all! It's been a long time since I've been on here, but I'm back as I've got to the point that something must be done about DD2's poor night sleeping. DH and I are at each other's throats and it's got to the point that riding it out is not an option
Some background for you...
We have three kids DD - 7 years old, DS - 2.5 years old and DD2 - 13 months. I've followed BW principles with all three (to varying degrees). DD is an angel child, DS is touchy and (I think) DD2 is angel/textbook. There is only 16 months between DS and DD2 which is largely the reason we've been more lax with doing sleep training with her. We haven't (until recently) been able to let her cry, as she'd wake up DS and then we'd have big issues getting him back to sleep. As such, we've let her keep the dummy/paci for a lot longer than the others did (ditched it at 7 mos and 4 mos respectively) and we've got out of bed far more quickly to pat her back to sleep when she's woken at night. I suspect we've created the problem doing this...
So my problem is her waking multiple times a night and needing to be resettled back to sleep. She still has a dummy and unfortunately still gets a night BF (that and a bedtime feed are the only BFs she gets and I'm about to go cold turkey on both!). One part of me thinks I should hold off doing anything (about her NWs) until she's fully weaned to eliminate that variable, but I'm pretty sure it's not that. She has very rarely been fed to sleep, has been on EASY since birth and goes to sleep for naps and bedtime independently (i.e. put her in sleeping bag, give her dummy, cuddle with her teddy for about 30 secs, put her in her cot, turn on music, close the door and 95% of the time that's the last time we hear from her).
EASY (on a good day) at the moment is:
6 - 6.30am wake and play
7am breakfast (cereal and/or toast)
8am Cow's milk bottle
9-9.30am 1st nap (30mins long if it's in the pram out somewhere, but more often 1-1.5hrs at home)
11.30-12 Lunch
12.30 - 2 Bottle and 2nd nap (1 - 1.5hrs long. Depending on how long the first nap was determines when 2nd nap starts)
After 2nd nap - Afternoon tea
5-5.30 Dinner and bath
6 - 6.30 BF and bed
She often will wake once or twice between bedtime and 10pm, but she won't replug herself. We'll go in quickly, replug and walk out and most of the time, she'll happily go back to sleep. However, she's then been waking between 11 and 12 and won't resettle without being picked up, cuddled and patted. Usually, we'll only hold her for <5mins and continue patting once back in her cot. Sometimes this NW will see us being up and down several times as she wakes again in 5, 10, 30mins later. We do consciously try not to put her to sleep in our arms, so to avoid her waking not knowing where she is. If the multiple wakings continue, I usually end up feeding her between 12 and 1 (which I know she doesn't need for hunger) and she goes back to sleep awake and 95% of the time resettles by herself with the dummy. If she doesn't wake early in the night, she'll wake between 1 and 3 and I'll just feed her straight away and she'll go back to sleep (awake) usually without an issue. She will sometimes sleep through until 6 - 6.30, but recently, she's sometime waking between 4 and 5 and needs resettling or is awake for the day.
I guess what's doing my head in, is that each night is different and I'm not able to tie her NW back to the length/time of her naps or the time she wakes in the morning. DH works shifts and trying to find a block of time when DD2 is healthy/not teething and he's home, has been really challenging. But then again, we're also not sure what to try/do to resolve the NWs. I'm prepared that we might have to get rid of her dummy and if that has to happen, then OK, but getting rid of it at 13 months old is going to be lots harder than for a younger baby, isn't it? We've gone cold turkey with the other two, but DD2 is strong-willed and teethes hard, so I'm rather afraid!
Sorry for the war and peace, but I wanted to give as much info as possible. We need to do something soon, as we're both so tired after so many months of NWs. Dealing with frequent NWs in young babies I can do, but enough's enough. Any clues and advice would be much appreciated