Hello,
Very long post and maybe not very clear as a lot is to be said.
My little one is 8 months at the moment and has never been a good sleeper. I am willing to try a pu/pd or shush-pat or something else as it is becoming more and more difficult. Wakings every two hours or more often therefore a lot of accidental parenting from my side. (have woken up four times between 7:30pm and 10:30pm today already...
) We share the room as not ready to move him out into nursery with two older brothers and no spare room. Need advise and reassurance.
Our routine is
5:30-7:15 Day starts and I offer breast around then. He may have some milk, may not.
8am Breakfast
9:30 nap usually till 11am. In the pram in the garden,
11:30 - I am trying to give bottle around 11:30 and he may have 30-50ml. If I really insist he may take 90ml.
12pm - lunch
1:30-2pm nap and depending on a first nap can go till 4pm but usually the second nap is 1h15mins. Also in a pram outside.
Another attempted bottle 15 minutes after waking,
3:30-4pm Some fruits with brothers,
Dinner 5:30
BT starting with bath at 6:30-7pm. Breastfed for sleep at 7-7:30.
He rarely falls asleep actually at the breast. What he does is rolling away from me and settling just next to me and then I pick him up and put to the crib. He may just stay there, or fall asleep with some gentle stroking on his back. Sometimes I need to pick him up, hold for couple of minutes and then can put down.
NW are more difficult as he fusses if I pick up and really requires rocking to go back to sleep. After 2am waking we normally co-sleep which does not prevent him from wakings.
My boy is very attached to me - not sure about the type of the baby as he will play on his own for a while after his food but with a slightest discomfort would whinge and starts crying unless picked up after short while. He ends up being carried a lot during the day.
I am probably ready to sleep train though big question is how do I explain to two two-year olds why I make their brother cry so much at night. I had to use some pu/pd with my twins around 7 months and it worked well though one is an angel baby and another is a full speed spirited. Third is such a different baby!
Thanks