Hello everyone!
We've recently welcomed our daughter Audrey to the family and she is having the most difficult time sleeping which is also affecting her eating. I am trying to follow her cues but doing a lot of AP because she just can't get to sleep or stay asleep. She doesn't respond well to ssh/pat (this worked wonderfully with my DS). She has a dummy/pacifier but can't keep it in her mouth and I am constantly replacing it for up to two hours whilst she has mini 5,10,20min sleeps before waking and crying when it falls out. I'm not keen to take the dummy away as sucking is the only thing that calms and relaxes her enough to even attempt closing her eyes just not sure how to break this cycle. At night she can drop it when she's in deep sleep and sleep a few hours so I know she CAN sleep but during the day is like pulling teeth!
She is chronically overtired and can go a whole day of no sleep or just a couple of hours and that's with car/pram/swing naps thrown in to help her get to sleep but never in big chunks, sporadically spread across the day. This overtiredness is affecting her ability to eat well so it's a massive catch 22 cycle.
She's swaddled tightly and has soft music. We suspected silent reflux (although I'm not sure this is the case but rather just OT) however we're continuing with medication, inclining her bassinet, keeping her upright etc.
I'd really like to have some structure to our day, even just a LITTLE bit but she's all over the place and I'm at a complete loss of where to start. Her hunger and tired cues are all mixed up and I've lost confidence in reading her so am clock watching a bit. I'm sticking to 45-60mins awake but I find she's either UT or seriously OT and I'm yet to get it right.
Does anyone have any suggestions? My 3yo is not giving me much time to spend with her and Audrey is so very tired and cries a LOT. Her inability to settle is so draining and the family is suffering. I know the dummy is a MASSIVE issue but I'm not in a position to tackle that yet, especially when she is such a sucky baby.