Hi there Antie66, thanks for chiming in with your good suggestions - including the Pantley method, which is actually the link that I'd meant to post above, but instead somehow managed to paste another active thread - oops
Edited it now so you have the correct link - great to know that Antie66 has experience with that so hoping she'll continue to follow on here with her advice should you choose to go down that route, or even if not
Glad you've found the higher Zantac dose helpful, as Antie said it will need the dose adjusting, although what I hadn't realised (if it is the same as Ranitidine) was that the dose per kg is supposed to increase after 6mo but then given only 2x per day - I only found this out after DD had turned 12mo as the doc I'd seen until then continued to prescribe the dose for younger LOs! As always, consult your doc
To try and answer some of your specific questions - really hard to know at this stage whether EBT or short CN is best, you are right on the edge of dropping that CN completely. I tended to always offer it until refused consistently, but others I know were quicker to stop offering. Having said that, if I read that two nap day correctly, she'd only had 7.5h total A time, so unless she needs 16.5h sleep over 24h (very unlikely at this age) then she won't have had enough A time to feel ready for night sleep. On the other hand, when she does have the CN, she will likely need a much shorter A time afterwards - that's not weird, that's quite normal after a CN. Actually, even on two naps, some like longer As to BT (eg my DS) whilst others seem to do much better on shorter As to BT (eg my DD). So try not to worry too much about what other LOs do, yes it can be a helpful guide but your DD is unique as are her sleeping patterns
As for bed sharing for the latter half of the night - plenty of parents do that, here we focus our advice more on helping to wean from props which have become problematic in some way, and Tracy used to say "start as you mean to go on", but personally I like to remember a phrase I heard elsewhere - it's not a problem until it becomes a problem
So I guess I mean if it works for you that's great, enjoy it without guilt
just bear in mind it's possible it could become a prop which may need weaning later on.
I'll have to have a further think about how you put her down for BT... All that waking after 10/20mins the other night makes me suspect discomfort - waking after such a short time asleep does often indicate discomfort
If you have to keep picking her up to calm her then it's possible that might be exacerbating the reflux symptoms and causing discomfort, I'm not sure if that could explain the later discomfort or if it could be something else? But if that's the case then it may well be better in her case to hold until more sleepy, rather than doing lots of PUPD...as I said, will have a further think and maybe ask around and get back to you on that one