Hi there! There is a pile of information in the FAQ Sleep section:
Pick Up/Put Down (PU/PD) - Everything you ever needed to know!Great stuff to help make sure you are appropriately prepared and realistic about your goals and what all.
OK, 1: Yes, I would not go totally cold turkey on the NFs, especially with a BF baby, my 2 still had a feed 4 hours in and an early morning feed at that age.
2: Stick with it, even if it means going past the 4 hour mark ( be strong, it will get better!) until LO goes back out, even if only for 10 minutes, THEN feed.
3:If she can do that much A, I might offer a top off feed before you do wind-down so LO is full and happy but not drowsy. And yes, keep going until she goes out!
4: Yes, this is more of a "work with me here" process. Scroll down to the "Age appropriate adaptations" section on the PUPD link I dropped for you.
5:I would just go ahead and move it. It will be OK.
6: I would pick an evening and start then for BT and go from there when YOU feel ready and have some support from your DH.
7: SHe can do it! So can you! It really will be OK. When DD and I did PUPD ( truly shocking sleeper) I really had to get my head around it all so I posted regularly on here, made myself a chart so in my sleep deprived stupor I could see that this would work and no going back and celebrate ALL improvements! I noted down number of wakings, when, how long to settle, how many PUs and so on and could see the progress. It is great that your DH is on board, and let him do his part too and he may need to listen to you rant about it all! I would not change people in the middle of trying to settle LO, but let him take the next waking so you can get some rest.
I see that lilylayne has been looking over your day and it looks like you are on the right track.
Hang in there, don't give up before the miracle! Things WILL get worse before they get better but it will be worth it and we are with you all the way!