Hi again.
Liz, I will post what has happened on the past two days. It isn't a very good routine, I think I know that. He was so good at the three hour EASY at three months so it is a shame. His wake up times have never been consist ant though, they range between 5.45 and 8. To be honest that probably shows where I am also going wrong. have had a better weekend with feeding though.
So, Friday NW at 4 so I put him in the koo dii(pop up cot) so I could lie next to him with a hand on his chest. I was exhausted and couldn't manage. He cried but slept until 8.00. I therefore rested felt ready to tackle the feed to sleep thing and try to feed only on waking.
Friday NW , 10, 4pm(sat)'
W 8.00
E 8. - 8.15 ish, good feed (yes!) in dark bedroom.
A 8.15 - 9.30
Shh pat to sleep, he fought a lot so this mingled with a bit of PU/PD whilst bouncing(cheating I know but my focus was to show that he didn't need to feed to sleep)ended up lying him the koo dii and lay next to him.
S 10.15( it took me that long) -11
E. 11 - 11.15, good feed again
A 11.15 - 12.30
Used method above to get him to sleep
S 12.55 - 13.30
E 13.30 - 13.45 good feed
A 13.45 until 15.30 ( we went out shopping with daughter)
S 15.30 - 16.00 in the car on the way home,
E 16.10 - 16.20 with a struggle as had to transfer from car seat up to his dark bedroom and was already stimulated etc..
A 16.20
E 18.20 formula - 7oz
S 19.00 just needed a little bit of shh patting as winding stirred him slightly.
NW strangely he didn't wake bet 9 and 10 as usual so dreamfeed at 10.40, took only 4 oz, mixed formula and expressed. Also woke again at 2.45, not interested in feeding so used previous methods to get him back to sleep, back to sleep at 4.00.
W- 7am
E 7 until 7.20 , good feed but fell back to sleep until 8.30, a first.
A 8.30 - 10.00
( had to change today as nap times coincided with feed times)
E 10.00-10.20( he came off before sleep so shh patted, pupd, rocked to sleep.
S 10.40 - 11.20
A 11.20 - 12 50
E 12.50 - 12.555 ish, struggled to feed
S 13.10 woke at 14.00, tried feeding again, fed for five mins and fell back to sleep until 14.30
A 14.30 until 16.00
S 16.10 until 16.40pram sleep
E 16.45 17.00 good feed, and and he fed in the lounge and although my daughter was quiet she popped the telly on. DS got lots of praise for this. So, so pleased, it has been so long since I could feed in the lounge.
A 17.00 - 18.30
E 18.30 formula 7 oz, think he would have taken more but didnt want to over feed or for him to fall asleep on the bottle
S 7.20 , after shh patting. He was very calm. .
. .and let's see what the night brings.
As you can see the 'routine' is all over the place, it all changed when he started to only feed when sleepy a month ago of more. I think my whole day is predicted by wake up times and when he chooses to feed. The last two days are unusual as he usually wakes up at 6 ish ( 2 or 3 NW )and I struggle to get him back to sleep. Sometimes he won't eat first thing though if I have fed in the night and then this changes things. Nothing is set in stone. You can probably see that i have got all muddled up, so I guess in that sense, surely he feels that way too.
Sorry for long post and hope it makes sense and that you can help, thank you x