Hi trimbler thanks for your post so good to know you are still there. I haven't had many replies to my post and been feeling a bit dispondant about it, although I do appreciate with Christmas just been and gone most mummies will be busy with family stuff.
The mastitis has gone thankfully and it was awful. I wouldn't wish that on anyone and I hope I don't have it again.
I will post a routine next week when OH goes back to work and DS1 is back at nursery as things are all over the place with LOs routine because of this and seeing family over Christmas. For example today he woke at 7am then slept from 10.30-11.30, then went until 4.30 for a 30 min cat nap and has only just gone to bed. The last few days he has stopped doing a regular A time of 3 hours and has been going 3.5-4 hrs as an A time and has been hard to settle for day naps, which was the source of a tearful breakdown in front of all my family and OHs family on Boxing Day.
I have taken kellyjs's advice and been feeding LO up at bedtime on porridge and formula. And we have had 3 nights where LO has woken every 3 hrs which has been great! Last night was every two hours and I was only able to resettle without feeding him to sleep on a couple of occasions as he just got very upset and I caved.
I have found that after a bf at night he will sleep for 2-3 hours whereas if he resettles himself with my help he wakes after 30mins- 1hr, which made me wonder if hunger is the issue?
I need to try harder at getting him to resettle himself when he wakes at a time when I don't plan to feed him. the last couple of nights I haven't done as well as I should do but it's hard when I'm tired and just want to crawl back into bed.
I just want to be through all of this, it's been months now since his bad sleep started
Hopefully posting an updated routine next week might help someone suggest what may be causing all these wake ups.
Thanks again for sticking with me!