Hi there and welcome to BW forums - and indeed, to motherhood
It sounds like you're both doing really well to me
Really, the first 6 weeks or so are about adjusting to the outside world for her, recovery for you, and establishing breastfeeding and milk supply for both of you. And of course just getting to know each other! Cuddles are great - enjoy them
There won't be much A time at this stage, she just has a lot of feeding and growing to do, and I found that mine took so long over their feeds that the only A really was the nappy change - that's fine, and don't overlook that time as a time to connect and enjoy her, poo and all
Sleep will likely be all over to place to begin with, that's completely normal don't worry!
In answer to your specific questions:
1) Yes, I wouldn't let her go more than 3h between the beginning of one feed and the beginning of the next, especially during the daytime. At night, opinions/advice vary as to whether or not to let them go longer, and I'm probably not best placed to answer that, but I personally used, as a rule of thumb, that if they're putting on weight well then after the first couple of weeks or so I'd let them go up to 5h at night - again from the beginning of one feed to the beginning of the next. Yes, I'd even set an alarm to make sure I woke up then if they hadn't, although in practice that was rare
These first weeks are so important in establishing your milk supply, as well as her growth, and your breasts need the regular stimulation, even at night, in order to do this.
2) Ok I know what you mean here - so if for example she's up for 45mins, then sleeps for 30, wakes and takes another hour to get back to sleep, then sleeps 45mins, then you'll find yourself at 3h and wondering whether to wake her? Well at this age, she's still so young, I may have just offered a feed at the 2h mark, and then tried to get her back to sleep, but if she wasn't interested then I'd probably say that 45mins is a long enough time to wake her. I really wouldn't spend more than 45mins to 1h on trying to resettle her after a short nap though, and her first A time (from waking to feed, until she next goes to sleep) would ideally be 45mins max at this age, so the situation you describe shouldn't happen too often? Sorry not sure if any of that made sense?
3) as I said, enjoy those cuddles
But be aware that if she always goes to sleep in your arms, then that is what she'll come to expect, and you may find it harder to 'wean' her from that the longer you leave it. Having said that, it's really up to you what you decide to do, you've obviously read the books so you know the tools that you can use to help teach her to sleep in her cot. You can start doing that right away - you may be surprised by how easily she settles, or you may find you have to do lots of work to help her to settle, but even if the latter, it will be laying the groundwork for later. What many parents here end up doing is picking one nap (or more) a day to settle them in the cot, using shh pat, and then APOP the rest eg by holding, using the sling or pram. I personally liked to use shh pat at BT, not because it was easy (it took aaaages!) but because I felt it kind of set the scene for the rest of the night.
4) Yes, definitely
Have a look at this, you'll probably end up referring to it a lot during the first year
Average A times- BOOKMARK ME! Actually, some newborns will need more like 30-45mins in the first couple of weeks, a common cause of short naps or difficulty settling at this age is trying to push their A times too much.
