I don't even know where to begin.
I posted here about 6-8 months ago and began to get us on track... things have marginally improved, but really they're pretty bad to us. DH is exhausted and he wants to start to let DS CIO, this is supported by my mum & step dad, whom we live with. I simply cannot do it.
He is an excellent napper... for DH. If DH puts him down at nap- or night-time, easy peasy, takes about 5 minutes maximum. If I do it, he falls asleep in my arms (it's the ONLY way just now) and I literally cannot put him down or he will wake and scream until I pick him up again. I can do this for the whole 1.5hr+ It hasn't always been this way... ?
Night times. Sometimes he will sleep through (10% of the time?) and then wake early (530am or so?)... Otherwise he will have a looooong NW and then sleep to about 6am.
The night before last, he woke at 120am and didn't go back down until 350am. We tried all sorts - rocking him to sleep in our arms (woke when we put him down), but I finally got him to sleep by lying down with him in his cot and sneaking out when he was finally asleep. Last night he woke at 3am and didn't go back down until 5am. The cot-trick didn't work, and he finally fell asleep in my arms and I brought him back to bed with me rather than risk waking him up by putting him in his bed.
At this age, his brother was a self-soothe pro! You could put him in his bed and leave him to it! I have tried to teach M this, but he's not having it. It seems to me that whatever worked one night, doesn't work the next! I can't even BF him to sleep anymore! I know all of these things are props, but I simply can't seem to get him to take himself off to sleep.
He's down to 1 nap, so his EASY looks something like this:
5:30a wake up
11:00 nap (1.5-2 hrs)
6:30p bedtime
PLEASE help me formulate a plan! I cannot let him CIO, which is what DH wants to start doing, but I cannot go on like this either. His older brother was so consistent in his needs, but M seems to be all over the place and the same thing doesn't work twice!