Hi
I've posted a million times about my 7 month old. His sleep has never really got back to normal after Christmas and we are in a mess with loads of bad habits and props. The thing is, I am now so tired it is affecting how I am with the other 2 and so I will just have to sleep train, much as I hate it, so I can g o back to being a normal person rather than a weeping, raging monster. And my parents are here for one week so now is the time! But my other 2 were much older when I STed so I'm not sure how to do it with such a small baby
and I would really like some advice.
He is 7 months exactly. Sleeps in my room (often in my bed). Breastfed. Has a dummy which he cannot replug, and he isn't mad keen on it - will only take it when he is really sleepy, and it's not the magic cure it was with the twins. He is eating 3 meals a day but we are doing babyled weaning so not eating massive volumes. During the day he feeds about every 3.5 hours but that is all thrown out by his terrible nights too as I am never sure when to offer the first feed as he has had a million little snacks overnight.
Yesterday's EASY:
A for the day at 6ish but really restless since 4:30
Breakfast (porridge) 7
BF 8 (didn't take much, maybe full from breakfast)
S 9-10:15 (couldn't resettle)
BF 10:30 (good feed)
Fell asleep for 10 mins in the car at 11:30
Lunch 12:00 (sandwiches)
BF 1:30 (OK feed)
S 2:00 - 4:00
BF 5:00
Supper 6:00 (cauliflower cheese)
BF 7:00
BT 7:30
NW so far (!) 9, 10 (dummy and resettle), 11:30 (BF), 2:30 (tried to resettle and couldn't, tried to feed and wouldn't, shh patted for an hour of screaming, tried again to feed at 3:30 and had about 3 sucks and went to sleep). I'm sure he will be awake in an hour or so.
I know our EASY isn't great either. But I will just have to do if all at once. As a family we are absolutely on our knees. I hate baby crying but I am getting loads of screaming anyway, so I would like to feel like it is getting somewhere. Honestly, it's the first time with all 3 of them I've been tempted to do any kind of crying method (I won't, don't worry!) purely because of the effect on my precious twins - I have no energy and no patience, the baby is miserable and tired.
So please give me a step by step approach. PUPD has never worked in the past as it isn't that he wants to be held, so I have always soothes in the cot, and I'd rather do that. I think I want a gradual withdrawal method but am prepared to do it quite quickly even if crying is involved. And I don't need him sleeping through, am happy to keep NF, but after the first one he isn't really hungry for them, doesn't even suck properly, so I'm sure it's a prop. He has some separation anxiety but he doesn't settle with me there so I don't think it's that.
Finally....because of the twins, some things are fixed. I do nursery runs at 8:30'and 5 3 days a week. And mealtimes can't move much as the twins are creatures of habit.
Pleas help. We are falling apart here.