At 10 months, my son was sleeping through the night 2 out of 3 nights, for naps we'd put him into the crib awake, and he'd putting himself to sleep without any intervention, at nights too mostly. If he struggled, we soothed him a few minutes, walked out and he would be ok. Then we travelled from California to England, and resorted to all sorts of props to handle the jet lag, teething, the need for no crying in a shared house.
When we returned to USA, he couldn't go to sleep without help, had short inconsistent naps, and was waking 2 times a night and it is incredibly hard to get him back to sleep. I'm loosing my mind for lack of sleep and need some help.
We have been using the put down method (we put him down every time he stands/sits up), to re-train him to fall asleep on his own. This (and a longer awake time) really helped the naps, but night time it isn't working. After we do PD, and he stops trying to sit/stand up, we have to sit next to the crib until he is VERY asleep.This seems like a prop, but otherwise he hears us leave, and he cries again and we're back to square one. This means getting him back to sleep takes a good 30-60 minutes, even when he wakes at night. How can we do something different here? Slowly sitting further and further from the crib just doesnt seem like a good solution. Can we do walk in walk out?
Even after a 4 hour awake time, sometimes he has a 45 minute nap in the morning. Could this be over tired?
I think we are at the stage of transitioning towards 1 nap - with a longish morning nap, and a short afternoon cat nap. If he has a 4 hour awake time normally, what awake time is appropriate after an afternoon cat nap before bedtime to prevent over or under tired, and waking 45-60 mins after falling asleep at night time? 3 hours?
We aim for bedtime ~ 6.50, asleep by 7pm, and wake up is 5am. I think he really needs a longer night time sleep, especially to go to 1 nap a day. But if I'm trying to have a consistent bed time and wake time, how do i extend that?
He typically wakes at around 10-11pm, and then 2.30-4am. He is very hungry 10-11pm, so I don't think I can drop this feed yet (especially as he feeds less recently due to teething). The 2.30-4am he doesnt seem as hungry, it is VERY hard to get him back to sleep. Sometimes I can get him to sleep with PD, but he is in a very very light sleep and wakes every 45mins. But sometimes I can't get him back to sleep after 4am. I guess I need to stop BF at this wake up, and hopefully it will be easier to get him back to sleep here with advice on how to modify the PD approach we've been using.
A few EASY examples (we're aiming for 4 hours between waking and into crib).
5.15am wake up
9.35-1025 nap (9.15 crib)
2.30 -3.10 nap. (2.25 crib)
7.15 asleep (6.40 crib)
(10pm wake and BF)
(2.30am wake, asleep of and on until 3.45. Screaming 3.45-4.45, asleep 4.45am - 5.30am)
5am wake
9am-9.45 nap
1.15-3pm nap (in stroller because nanny is here - see below)
6.55pm asleep (6.50 crib)
(wakes at 7.50am, 10pm, and 3am)
A few extra bits of information:
- Our nanny comes twice a week, and was having trouble getting him to sleep and so he naps in the stroller on the days she is here (I assumed this was a better solution than her using props which she had been doing). These same days, my husband puts him to bed as I'm at work. My husband typically has a much harder time getting him to sleep.
- He has been teething on and off.
- I should 'admit' I typically don't put him straight back into the crib after a feed. I feed him lying in bed in his room, and typically let him fall asleep. In the past this wasn't an issue.
- He's always been an early riser. 5am wake up is ideal for us, but i feel he should be sleeping from 6/6.30pm - 5am, not 7/7.30pm-5am