With the bringing into bed - of course it's not 'BW' and I'm sure you know the SIDS guidance, but it's completely up to you to decide how you want to proceed - I see you're torn between concern about breaking the habit later, being on call and on the other hand it getting you all some more much-needed sleep. But I think you probably need to have a good discussion with DH about that and make a decision and try to stick with it - sure you can make exceptions but she might just find it confusing being taken into your bed some nights and not others... I'm afraid I can't promise any magic for resettling in the cot at that time in the morning, I think we're all plagued by EW at some time or another
so just let me know if that's something you want to work on now, or if you decide to just bring her into bed for now and work on it later, after your travels, perhaps?
As for the hour long screaming, I honestly have blocked that out of my mind with DS, if he did it at all (perhaps on occasion when teething/ill), but DD has certainly been known to do that. For her it's usually been a combination of OT and discomfort, usually teething, or more recently, thirst (which I was a bit slow to realise
). Having mentioned thirst, I wonder whether your LO has been getting enough fluids during the day, if she's really keen on solids and then perhaps not getting so much milk. I'm afraid I'm a bit hazy at this age, whether to suggest offering water first at night, but my gut feeling is perhaps try offering water a bit more during the day, especially alongside solids - not to replace milk, but to increase her fluid intake, if you think that might be an issue? Then I'd probably still want to be offering milk at night, at this age. Other than that, are the any signs of discomfort of any sort?
Your routine looks pretty solid to me, but could you post a recent day when she's had the long NW screaming?