Hi there Mads.mama and welcome to BW forums
Here's a link to the W2S method (waake-to-sleep) so you can read a bit more about it
How do I address habitual wakings? (wake-to-sleep and other methods)With regards to your description of shush/pat it sounds like you're doing great, staying calm and keeping going
What you need to bare in mind is that baby has been taught to feed to sleep and has know this for 5 months now, so 3 days of moving towards a different method of going to sleep is not so many days really. Shush/pat (as with all the BW methods) is a very useful and respectful method, reassures baby and teaches her that she is safe to fall asleep independently. But it's not a magic wand and the independent sleep is not going to happen immediately. Whilst it might be a lot of work to help LO become confident and happy to sleep alone, it is well worth the time and effort, once he is napping well and self settling you will have some Y time (finally) and can rest (long over due after 5 months of holding for naps) or crack on with those things around the house.
In addition you may need a change in your routine times, as pp has rightly said sleep cycles end at 40 or 45 mins (usually) if your LO wakes at this time it is usually an indication of either:
- that he is UT (under tired) and needs a bit more activity before going to sleep
- that he has never learned to self settle so when he wakes at the end of the cycle he doesn’t know how to go back to sleep without your help.
Or it could be a combination of both. The W2S method could well help here.
Thanks Odin's_mom too for paying it forward and supporting in the community - much appreciated
Mads.mama, could you begin to record your LOs EAS times please. It would help the community support you if we were able to have a look at your current routine - record the actual times things happen, rather thna what you might hope for, so we can see exactly when LO sleeps and wakes.