Nursing & AP?

[FPT23]

Clazzat, thank you for your encouraging words <3 it's good to know about the rolling and crawling from your LO! Interesting!

The reason I specifically was talking physical milestones is b/c that is what his dr focused on when I went into his 2 month visit. I also stress the weight b/c this is from his dr. This wasn't a concern previously! I thought we had been doing good! --- but was disappointed after the visit when the dr told me all these things I am sad about on this post.

Yes it is probably impossible to not have an OT baby isn't it I just need to wait it out until his A is a bit longer. He very well might be in that cycle your saying! Yes he seems hungry every time he wakes, and that was an initial question I once had and still do; when he EWs from a nap, having just fed, I find that having followed EASY he naturally assumes that he needs to feed and I'll have a hard time resettling. If it's 30 mins I TRYYYY to resettle other times I can't with the toddler and just need to distract him and try a bit later... If 45 mins later, I try and take out but all he wants to do is feed and gets upset. Then it seems only my husband can calm him-- so I wasn't sure what to do in those cases... I feel if I continue to do that we will never move forward to the 3-4 hr easy.. Which I know I needs to be transitioning soon into the 3 month time?


I don't hate breast feeding. I never really said that or feel I have to either... I'm more just sad and discouraged that it has been so hard for us and hasn't seemed to let up. I feel he's never satisfied after feeds- I never know if it's because he's hungry still (which after his visit, I feel bad thinking I misread him and he's been hungry all along) or because he's tired and just likes the comfort... It's quite confusing and after the visit it just made me feel a bit sad I really want to BF more than anything truly but it's been harder than the norm and it makes me feel bad is all

[clazzat]

Sorry - I misunderstood what you were saying about bf'ing. I do still want to make the point, though, that if it turns out that it isn't right for your family then that is okay.

Wrt eating when he short-naps, I think that it might be a question of fixing the sleep rather than stressing about the eating. If you can find the magic a time then he might sleep longer for you and the issue will resolve itself. I'm not fantastic at routines,  so you might find that a post on the sleep board will get you some more experienced eyes. As a matter of curiosity, have you done the 'know your baby' quiz? I found it invaluable with dd2 and ds because I was able to factor their type into what I planned/expected and found it easier. For example, dd2 was touchy for sleep which meant firstly that she got os incredibly quickly and I had to make her a times much shorter than average for her age, and secondly that if I could see that she was tired then I was putting her down too late - I had to really clock-watch with her because her sleepy cues always came after she had missed the window for getting her down easily.

In the sorter term, I might try giving him the paci after he has fed to see if it is the comfort of sucking that he needs or whether it really is that he is still hungry. I might also try that if/when he wakes early from naps to see if you can fob him off! 😄

[trimbler]

(((Hugs))) Totally agree about the small baby thing - I remember friends of mine whose doctor kept worrying them about their DD's small size, when, looking at her parents, it was pretty obvious why she was below the curves - they were both quite petite themselves and their baby was absolutely fine

Just wondering about that 'never feeling satisfied' after feeds - what makes you think that? What makes you think that he just wants to comfort suck rather than actually feed? If reflux is an issue, he may find it soothing to suck slowly - I know my DS did (DD, on the other hand, was just really reluctant to feed at all as it was uncomfortable), so investigating reflux meds could help him so that he doesn't have to suck to feel comfortable. I realise that with a toddler you don't want to be tied to a long feed if possible. DS would stay on there for more than an hour at a time and I just let him as I didn't know any different and didn't see a problem, other than of course OT Alternatively, it may be that TT is making his feeding inefficient, so that he is genuinely still hungry when you think he must have finished. Do you take him off the breast after a certain length of time has passed, or does he come off himself? Does he bring up wind easily? My DS would keep coming off the breast as a NB but still seem hungry, turned out he was just swallowing a bit of air and needed to burp - once he'd done that he was back on for a good while longer and settled much better afterwards.

Or - are you saying he's unsatsfied after a feed because he seems hungry after a short nap? Tbh if he does seem hungry, don't feel that you have to stretch him, it may just be that he hasn't had enough milk from his previous feed to get him through - which may be 'fixed' by encouraging/allowing him to feed more during his first feed, or, it may be that he just can't take on any more at a time than he already is, or, your breasts may just have a smaller storage capacity than some other mums, which may mean that you'll always have to feed a bit more often, but as A times get longer you can get around that with top-up feeds before naps, so he doesn't wake hungry.

I'm sorry I think I've been rambling a lot and since I don't even know your answers to my questions at the beginning, much of what I've said may be completely irrelevant...but food for thought, perhaps, as you weigh it all up? Just don't forget, you know him best, whatever the doc/LC/BW people say, try to trust your mummy instincts when it comes to BF

Posted with you, clazzat - we're already chatting on NWs

[FPT23]

Thank you Clazzat! Your too sweet thanks for your help! It's no worries. I'm sure my frustration maybe made it seem that way.
I know the pressure to BF is real sometimes! Yk, in the beginning when we had the hardest time, I did feel it wasn't right for our family- and it was making me more unhappy than not. I finally felt I have crossed that bridge and I truly want to continue, at least until solids begin or the recommended first 6 months of his life. Plus it's easier ...and giving his little body formula so early scares me as with my first it totally messed him up! I haaaaated formula! So there's that! Even though he was formula fed after while, he was just a mess with reflux and consumption and we tried 100 formulas... Super hard. Intimidates me to start early! At least make it to where his tummy is a bit more developed is my plan!

I sure have took the quiz and he's a touchy baby for sleep only. He seems textbook for the rest. I am currently going through wind down changes as he's fighting our arms/swaddle or something! I just successfully got him down from his crib. Less is more with him. My first too. Touchy/textbook as well! I do notice my baby I have to watch the clock a bit but he handles OS/OT well, considering. It takes him awhile before he actually cries. He's most unsettled right after nap wakes (short or long) ...but it could be a number of reasons and I'm trying to figure out here w some of the helpful suggestions. I appreciate you!

My darling Trimbler,
Your a god send- thanks for so much help! My husband and I are not petite BUT, his family is! We were discussing that so he might just be petite. Time will tell. I plan to have him checked at 3 months, just to weigh in...

I feel he's never satisfied after because he ALMOST ALWAYS fusses right after he's off the breast! Like he's never content. I feel he wants to comfort suck b/c he's not really eating or "gulping" after awhile. He just sucks... And tries to doze off. And your 100% spot on with being tied down to feeds with my toddler. I thought I was done with that phase as it was so hard on us before- he would take years ...so that's another reason I got discouraged after the dr b/c it's so hard to go back to that, Yk? I do take him off once I see he's falling asleep or not eating- i do also burp and attempt again on the other side or continue the same one if I felt he hadn't ate enough from that side. Yes he pulls off sometimes like he's done and just does not want it... But fusses. If I get him on again somehow he just doses off so that why I say OT or tired from TT.

What I'm saying is, after a short nap it seems he just wants to eat. He never wakes happy or content- and I wonder if he's just used to EAS and just expects to be placed on to eat.

Your not rambling! I enjoy and need all the talks I can get! It's been helping me a lot to get by too <3 just to chat a bit even xoxo!!!