We have just started PU/PD with our 6 month old because he was bf'd to sleep and would not sleep more than 45mins on his own. I held him for all naps and he slept in my bed. He is now too heavy to hold and had started waking every hour in the night and I got into the habit of bf him every hour to get him back to sleep.
We are on day 3 and not seeing much progress.. Specific problems include
1. Startling awake: he will just drift off but then startle awake which happened over and over, maybe 40times in 1.5hrs last night. So now we are moving him into his front once he quietens down but worried this might become another dependency on us. We don't want to hold his hands down as we figured this would be another prop. Anyone had similar? Is like he's too scared to fall asleep but we have never left him crying.
2. It can sometimes take up to 1.5hrs of PU/PD and he will wake after a few minutes. Sometimes this is due to the startling but not always. Once he's awake, carrying on with PU/PD has never been successful at getting him back to sleep ; we always end up going to the next nap.
3. He now cries as soon as we start the winddown routine and is screaming by the time his sleeping bag is on so we are never able to start off putting him in the crib calm. We are worried we are making him scared of sleeping although as soon as the curtains are open and sleeping bag is off he's back to smiles and playing.
The bw book says spirited babies can take longer for pu/pd to work - but it will definitely work??
Here's what happened yesterday (day 2 of PU /PD; lo is exclusively bf):
7:00 awake feed play
9:40-10:25 pupd but no sleep
10:30-10:45 feed
10:45-11:00 pupd
11:00-11:25 sleep
11:25-11:55 pupd but no sleep
11:55 change, play
12:45-13:00 feed
13:15-14:00 pupd but no sleep
14:00-15:00 play
15:00-16:30 nap in pram to try and get back on track for evening
16:30 feed, play
17:30 feed
18:15 ready for bed
18:30 feed
18:45-19:30 pupd
19:30-20:10 sleep
20:10-20:55 pupd
20:55-21:10 sleep
21:10-22:20 pupd, startled the whole time, only picked up a few times as a hand on him put him back to sleep every time
22:20 change, cuddle, feed, no pupd required as very sleepy after feed
23:00 -1:30 sleep
1:30 woke hysterical, as he really wants to be asleep, calmed him down
1:50-2:05 pupd, put him on his front once he quietened
2:05-3:40 sleep
3:40-4:10 feed, very drowsy no pupd needed
4:10-4:20 sleep
4:20-4:50 pupd, put him on his front once he quietened
4:50-6:35 sleep
I guess what we really want to know, is if anyone has any similar experiences of pupd with a spirited baby and have any advice. Is there anything different we could be doing? We only hold him for max 2 minutes or until he quietens if it's sooner than this. I tend to give him a bit of time crying in his crib each time as it takes him a minute or so to calm down as he is very angry when we put him down, so as to avoid holding him too much. We are struggling to time awake time as we are always starting with an overtired baby.
Any advice or experiences at all would be most appreciated.
TIA