hello lovely ppl,
In desperate need of advice/guidance in teaching independent sleep to my LO(DS2). Had some amazing help in the past here
with DS1 and have tried techniques for teaching DS2, but I guess I am not doing it right or missing something ...
So LO is a preemie baby so I am forever trying to figure out his actual A and S times..cos it looks like he falls somewhere in between
his actual and corrected age. His
actual age is 8 months old, whereas
corrected age is 6.5 months old.He is mostly BF, I have started formula since last week but it is a major struggle for us to let him have it cos he is so used to the breast milk. His routine is somewhat like that, has 3 solid meals a day + a snack.
WU - 7.15/7.30 AM
Breakfast (Solids) - 8.30 AM (I dont feed him before this becos hes mostly been feeding on and off from 6 - 7 am)
Nap - 9.15/9.30 - 10.00/10.15 (45 min nap..sometimes 1 hr)
I try hard to stretch the first nap to 1.5 hr and get his wu time to 11.00, but again its difficult and depends a lot on when I get to him.
I have tried W2S with some success but I end up being in the room all the time holding him or patting him in the cot till about 11 a.m.
BreastFeed -11.00-11.15
Massage and bath - 11.30 - 12.15
Lunch - 12.30
Nap - 1.15 - 2.45 ( 45 min wake up @ 2 pm wailing, resettle by patting/rocking or breast feeding for another half an hour)
BF - 3.00 - 3.15
A - 3.30 - 4.45 (has a snack in between sometimes)
Catnap - 4.45 - 5.15/5.30 ( very difficult to put down, but unhappy anyways)
dinner - 6.15-6.30
bedtime - 7.15/7.30
He wakes up around 8 pm, 10.30 pm or 12.00 pm, 2.00 , 5.00 pm, sometimes more.
He will feed through the night mostly and wont resettle without at feed. Mostly I co-sleep
with him from 12.30 or 2 pm onwards due to exhaustion. Then goes into very light sleep from 6.00 - 7.15 mostly requiring patting or a constant feed during this time for him to stay asleep. Finally gets up for the day at around 7.15 am.
If I could please have some advice on how to adjust his routine as per his age so that he gets to nap longer...atleast 1.5 hrs and break the 45 min. nap cycle. Also I want to teach him how to sleep independently but I guess I dont want to introduce everything at once. Should I target independent sleep only at bedtime or one of the naps instead?? and then move on to other sleep times?? Right now I walk with him singing lullabies for a while till he is drowsy but awake , then transfer to crib and shush/pat in crib.
I dont want to tire him out with everything new together. What do you think? Many thanks!!