Hi,
Thanks for the advice. I think we are making (slow) progress. Overnight, bt and first nap of the day are relatively predictable ( hopefully I've not just jinxed my night tonight!). We still get 3-4 wake ups but settling is improving. Previously it's taken myself and my husband to settle, now I can do it all on my own, which gives him a break.
I have 2 major issues continuing and I'm hoping someone can help.
The first is that I'm finding that I do the wind down for the first nap, or our bed time routine and then I feed. I really really struggle not to let her fall at least partly asleep on the boob. I tickle her feet, talk to her, blow in her face, she just falls asleep. She always opens her eyes and looks around when I stand up at the end of the feed and always opens her eyes as she goes into the crib. Is this ok? Do you have any advice on how to handle this as I imagine you want her more awake to learn to self settle properly. Should I wake her up and read her a story? I'm scared to wake her up as it might really stimulate her and make her cry more in the settling process/wind her up.
The second question is that I'm really struggling with shh pat for the second and third naps today. My second nap she just lay there for an hour and a half looking at me (I kept my eyes averted to avoid eye contact) and eventually grumbled and cried but no sleep. I was exhausted up gave up.
I usually keep her awake time to 2 hours and this worked perfectly for the first nap. Do you think she is chronically OT and nap resistant?
My daytime routine is as follows:
E up at 6.45-7
A 7.15 in swing while I shower, then bouncy chair, then play gym then quieter floor time
S 9-11 in crib after shh pat
E 11-11.15
A 11.15 songs, play gym, jumperoo, playmat then story and quiet time on floor
S 12.30 ATTEMPTED shh pat for 1hr 30 no success
E 2.00 quiet feed
A 2.15 walk round garden in sling, quiet floor time (but lots of rolling)
S 4.00 fed to sleep on me as I was worried she wouldn't nap again before bed.
E 4.45
A 5.00 floor time with toys, singing, play gym
E 6.00
A 6.30 bath, 4S WIND DOWN
E 7.00 takes a long time as keeps falling asleep
S 7.45 shh pat 8.30 actually asleep
I've just realised how bad my easy looks. There are a lot more E's in there as my LO has had slow weight gain since birth and refuses a bottle (any tips welcome) so I feed on demand and as much as possible through the day. She gets hungry quickly but her feeds aren't efficient and we have just found out that her tongue tie, which was snipped at 3 weeks, has reformed.
I'm seeing a paediatrician tomorrow for the weight issue, she also has eczema so I've gone dairy free.
Please help! My biggest concern is the fact I struggle with the second two naps- she's been really OT the last 2 afternoons.
Thanks so much for your help.
J