Glad things are better for you
do you think napping her in her bed would make a difference to our nightwakings (instead of napping her in the sling).
Not necessarily - if she was napping badly in the sling and was waking at night through OT then maybe yes, but as night sleep and naps are (apparently) organised differently in the brain I think it's perfectly possible for her not to be an independent sleeper at nap time but do so at night. I think she's waking a lot from habit at night and wouldn't expect crib naps to help with that particularly. Of course the 'BW' way is to do all sleep independently, so if you did want to transition her to the crib for naps I'm happy to help. She is only going to get bigger and heavier....and more alert.....so sling naps may not work for you forever.
I am happy with this arrangement and am not sure I am ready to change this, but do you think it would make a difference if I moved her into her own room?
This is totally your call. It is possible that your noise is disturbing her at night, and you are possibly at risk of reacting to her stirring too soon given how near she is. I find it much harder to distinguish a real 'i need you' cry when I am *right there* whereas if i am in the next room i am better at pausing and listening before rushing in.
I put her down in the crib, after our bedtime routine, she plays like a mad thing and then falls asleep. however, we do still have about 4 nightwakings overnight
Just remind me of your current EASY? Just wanted to check there is no UT/OT at play...
I'm not sure how to take the next step with night weaning.... do I just do anything I can not to feed, and if so, how do I know that she isn't hungry. should I just PU/PD at every waking? If I reduce feeding overnight do you think she will start sleeping for longer?
I don't think she is ready to not feed at all overnight, but I do definitely think that there is a big element of habit in her waking.
There are different ways of night weaning really. The question of hunger is the biggest one to get your head round and to some extent yes she will be hungry, because she is now habituated to feeding overnight. The thing to bear in mind is being a bit hungry isn't dangerous and I wouldn't for a minute suggest going from 4 feeds to none all at once. It's up to you about introducing a dreamfeed - I actually never did one and I'd hesitate to introduce one at this age really, Tracy had babies dropping the dreamfeed by around 8 months once established on solids and if she's not used to it I think there's a risk it may disturb her sleep more than help it.
Five possible ways to do it:
(1) pick a time interval, say 4 hours (I think this is totally reasonable at her age). Note the time of her bedtime feed and then add 4 hours. Say BT feed is at 7pm, 4h later is 11pm. Any wakings before 11pm you use PUPD until she settles all the way back to sleep, including if this takes you all the way past 11pm. So say she wakes at 10.30pm, you PUPD for 30 mins and she is still awake, but you still keep going - don't give up and feed (that just teaches "I protest long enough and I will get fed"). Any waking past 11pm you pick her up, feed immediately and put back down. Note 4 hours later. And repeat. This would give her two opportunities to feed overnight which I would say is adequate provided she is being given sufficient opportunities for milk in the daytime.
(2) pick two times at which you will feed, say the first wakeup 10/11pm and then not again until 5am. Use PUPD for all other wakings.
(3) work on one waking at a time and use PUPD to eliminate it, feeding at other wakings, until that first one is gone. Do the same for the second one etc etc.
(4) gradually reduce time on the breast over a few days (i.e. take her off after less and less time), and then use PUPD as above to eliminate the waking
(5) note the time of her first feed on night 1. Night 2 you do not feed until at least 15 mins later, using PUPD for any wakings that occur before this time. Note what time this first feed now happens. Night 3 add another 15 mins etc etc.
- I really liked this way, and it worked amazingly for DS. Night 1 he woke at 23.15 and I fed. Night 2 he woke at 22.15 and I resettled. I then resettled every 15 mins until 23.15. Went for one more resettle to push the feed just 15 more minutes.....and he woke at 3.30am!!
Anyway just some thoughts there - you can use any combination of them