Hi
DS is nearly 13 months and has always been a rubbish sleeper! However, I have had some fantastic help from people on this forum (thanks so much) and we have struggled on through
I know we are approaching the 2-1 and I've read the info and have a plan (I think!). I am going to keep on capping nap 1 and then move nap 2 forward gradually until it becomes his only nap. I need to do things very gradually as DS is sensitive to both OT and UT (!!) and 5 minutes here and there can still make a difference to him.
We've been having early wake ups in the mornings for some time, but DS has been ill and teething and so I left changing anything until he was better. Also, I wasn't sure whether the EWUs were because he was OT or simply because he'd had enough sleep. His routine a couple of weeks ago was like this:
WU: Any time from 5am
Get up: 6:30 (he nearly always chats and plays/dozes until getting up time)
Nap 1: 9:30-10:30 (capped)
Nap 2: 2:30-4:00 (capped)
Bed time: 7:00
He always settled pretty well at bedtime despite the short A time to bed. However, he did seem tired still and we were getting these EWUs and only 10 hour nights sometimes.
DH then got involved
and we decided to make sure that he wasn't OT. We decided to let him have a longer 2nd nap, but cap the 1st at 50 minutes and slightly shorten his A times like this:
Get up: 6:30
Nap 1: 9:20-10:10 (capped)
Nap 2: 1:55-uncapped in theory but we usually wake him around 3:45
Bed time: 6:45
This was interesting as the EWUs did seem to improve (we even got a couple of 11 hour nights!). After a couple of days both myself and DH decided that it was helping the OT - he looked better in the mornings and was less grizzly after nap 2. HOWEVER, things are never simple with DS as he's now started to play around at bedtime - I'm sure it's because he's not tired enough. We tried giving him a bit more A time to bedtime but there's a limit to how long we want the day to get really. Plus, when he played around a lot at bedtime he then went back to shorter nights, so I'm assuming that this was OT again!
We are thinking that the next step is to cap nap 1 further (we will try 45 minutes now) and this will then slightly shorten the day again, enabling us to have a longer A time to bed. We may also cap nap 2 at 1 hour 45 minutes although I suppose once we cap nap 1 further we won't need to do this.
Get up: 6:30
Nap 1: 9:20-10:05 (capped)
Nap 2: 1:50-3:35 (capped)
Bed time: 6:45(we are going to start with an A time of 3 hours 10, and add on 5 minutes at a time to see what happens).
Any thoughts or ideas from people who have tried a similar thing would be much appreciated. I hope this is the correct place to post this - I have had other posts in the other sleep boards previously, but now DS is 1 year I think this is the correct place to post about all sleep issues?
Another thing we did think of was whether it's developmental as DS always chats away at bedtime (and we sometimes hear him in the night too). It's just a string of the words he knows, which can be very funny (car...car...bird...all gone...etc.) but not when I think he should be sleeping! In which case, do we just pick a routine which should work (in theory) and stick with it?
Thanks so much everyone.