Hi and thank you for your reply, veer much appreciated and I do know what you mean about that short idle of the day activity time.
Sometimes he will take a morning nap of an hour but yet I am concerned by the short activity time after this in order to get him to sleep before the school run so have capped this. Not going in and completely waking him up but making noises around him. As your routine suggests if he takes a long morning nap the afternoon one is shorter so can be pushed later. I guess I am trying to get him used to one long after noon nap for the childminders as they tend to sleep from one until 3. He will be there Thursdays and Fridays from 7.15 until 5 or 6(my poor baby
). I guess that is why I am trying my best to make that morning nap not matter so much. The childminder says that he could take a morning nap in the pram while they are out and about but I know my curious boy might not manage that(won't sleep in pram)
I have always had trouble getting my son to take a catnap after 3 o clock. Even from four months when he really needed it. He adores DD and just does not want to sleep when he knows he can play with her. We also go on little excursions after the school run(tires them out) and it would be a shame to stop that. I hope I am not starting to sound like I 'm pushing away all solutions. It just is a bit tricky but you can probably understand why I feel a bit lost on what to do. I am starting to think things will get better as he is older and does only need one nap a day and that I will have to try what I can until that point.
I have tried walk in, walk out for sleep training as he was once an independent sleeper. I do a pre nap routine, a few lullabys he hears every time. .these make him show a lot of tired cues and then I turn the white noise on and cuddle for a bit. Prior to this he will have his feed. He used to be a distracted feeder and I have always had trouble feeding him anytime other than prenap .he will only feed to sleep at 5 In the morning though . .strange.
I then put him down, he cries, stands up, I lay him down and shh and stroke him, he sucks his thumb and then I leave the room. I wait a minute until he cries again and this process repeats. Sometimes when I shh him he will push my hand away, sometimes he goes into settling mode but mostly he just isn't getting into it and wants to stand up. This can go on for about fifteen minutes or more until he gives up and plays. at that point I Rock him to sleep and give up. Sounds silly I know but I am conscious of time. I am happy to stay in the room and shhh etc... But the same thing just happened after trying.
Also, his afternoon nap is usually an hour and a half. He goes longer than this at a weekend, two hours sometimes but I have to wake him before three on week days to do the school run so for some reason he still takes this long nap after a a 3 hr 20 activity time. Maybe because his morning nap is short, I am not sure though.
Anyway, sorry for the long post, just wanted to get everything down. A little confusing I know argh. On a better note I managed to put him down for bed before he was complete
Y asleep tonight and he did fall asleep with shhh stroke. That was after four hours activity time(interesting hey:)).
Thank you for any help you can give me x x