Hi all. I've been reading posts on here for a few weeks now and wanted to post my own problem as I just can't keep going on like this. Sorry this is so long!! And sorry if it's in the wrong place, I wasn't sure where to put it. Please move it if necessary.
I'm trying to get my LO on to EASY but it's proving difficult. He's 7 months on the 27th and has never slept through the night. I think the most I've ever got out of him is 4.5 hours, and that was when we had to resort to my OH cuddling him in our bed a few months ago.
He feeds quite often (generally speaking 1 side per feed). I know he 'should' be stretching out his feeds but I don't know what to do as he has full feeds each time, particularly at night. I've tried settling him without food at night and sometimes he'll go back to sleep but he'll wake within an hour and drain my by-then-engorged boob. His feeds last between 4 and 8 minutes during the day, a bit longer at night as he's sleepy. When he was little he'd fall asleep during every feed but now even if he falls asleep, he wakes as soon as I move him off, so I'm not even guilty of feeding to sleep any more!
I should probably add that he has eczema and suspected CMPA. He's bf but I haven't given up dairy because the dermatologist seems to think it's not a dairy allergy, but has still advised dairy-free weaning, which is really confusing. No allergy testing until he's 1 year old. We're back at the dermatologist tomorrow for yet more creams as his eczema comes back as soon as we stop steroid creams. He has between 1-3 solid feeds per day; it's varied because I can't always 'catch' him in a non-sleepy, non-fussy, non-boob-hungry moment. He starts pulling at his ears, yawning and rubbing his eyes after he's been awake for about 1 hour, but I don't put him to sleep then as I'm sure it's far too early. He's probably just permanently knackered
Last night was absolutely terrible and I just don't know why. Every day is so different. I've tried waking him at 7am and letting him sleep until he wakes naturally but nothing seems to work. Sorry if this is confusing, I've tried to stick to the correct format. Here's the past couple of days:
Tuesday:
WU: 8.20
E: 8.25 (bf)
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E: 9.30 (solids)
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E: 10.15 (bf)
S: 10.40 (2hrs 18mins)
E: 1pm (bf)
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E: 2pm (solids)
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E: 3.10pm (bf)
S: 3.25 (1hr 45mins)
E: 5.15 (bf)
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E: 6.30 (solids)
Bedtime routine: 7pm
E: 7.35 (bf)
S: 7.50 (1hr 27mins)
NF: 9.21 (bf)
S: 9.40 (2hrs 58mins)
NF: 12.40am (bf)
S: 1.10 (1hr 54mins)
NF: 3.10 (bf)
S: 4.11 (3hrs 3mins)
Wednesday day:
WU & E: 7.17am
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E: 8.30 (solids then bf)
S: 9.19 (57 mins)
E: 11.12 (bf)
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E: 12.15 (solids)
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S: 12.54 (37 mins, in pram whilst out)
E: 2.10pm (bf)
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E: 3.55 (bf)
S: 4.05 (1hr 53 mins)
E: 6.23 (bf)
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Getting fussy despite long nap so bedtime routine 7.15
E: 7.35 (bf)
S: 8.35 (49 mins)
NF: 9.33
S: 10.25 (1hr 13mins)
NF: 11.38
S: 11.57 (26 mins)
S: 12.35am (1hr 15 mins)
NF: 1.51
S: 2.31 (1hr 24 mins)
NF: 4am
S: 5.15 (2hr 14) <-- had to give up and get OH to cuddle him to sleep
WU & E: 7.30am
^^ You can see from last night that he was awake for hours. E.g. from 9.30 until 10.25, 1.50 until 2.31, then 3.55 until 5.15. I tried all sorts: PUPD, lying next to him in the cot, cuddling, tummy rub, lullabies, classical music... Sometimes he'd fall asleep for a couple of minutes then wake up crying. Other times (like with classical music) he lies there with his eyes open for a few minutes, then cries. At 5.15am I had to give up and get OH to take over. (Actually, he came into LO's bedroom because he heard me crying...). LO then woke up at 7.30 when OH got out of bed to go to work and had to let go of him.
Please help!! I know this is super long and confusing but please, if anyone can see any glaring errors/simple tweaks, please let me know. I can't see the wood for the trees. As I said, every day is different, LO is so unpredictable. I try so hard to do the right things but it seems to be getting worse and worse. I'm really struggling and LO isn't very happy either.