Hello, and TIA for reading. I am a FTM, trying really hard to start off right to avoid bad habits later on. I just finished reading "The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems," but I have some questions/issues that weren't addressed in the book (that I can find). I tried starting DD on EASY yesterday after doing everything "on demand" so far - I was nursing her to sleep and naps were in my arms - accidental parenting, I know
So yesterday I started feeding upon awakening and making sure all sleeping was in the crib (except the first nap bc I had an errand). Our day looked like this:
0630: Awake (normal WT)- nursed then activity mat x45 minutes, then into carseat at 830 and slept until 1130
1130: Nurse then bath (she hates baths so I don't do them at night since it is not calming)
1220: Yawning, so started quiet time in nursery, p/d in crib at 1230
1235: Pooped and woke up, would not go back to sleep so changed diaper and started quiet time over
1308: Asleep in crib
1338: Fussing, waited 10 minutes then gave pacifier and she went back to sleep
1359: Spitting out paci, so assumed hungry, so nursed then she fell asleep so put in crib since didn't really get any sleep yet
-at this point, the paci fell out multiple times and she would start fussing so I repaced it-
1727: awake, nursed, then activity mat x1 hour
1845: Started screaming hysterically (no tired signs, just straight to screaming), so picked up to shush, calmed down immediately so tried putting in crib, asleep immediately
1930: Awake, nursed
2000-2230: Shush-pat 3 times, would not sleep more than 20 minutes until nursed again at 2230, during which time she fell asleep and did not wake up again until 630 the following morning (by far the longest she has ever slept at night)
Some FYIs:
She was not premature, but small (birth weight 5.5 lbs), but has been gaining weight ok
She does have reflux, is on Zantac three times/day
She always wakes up at 630, usually goes to bed between 2100-2300, waking up around 0100 and 0400 to nurse
Questions:
When she wakes from a nap with a dirty diaper and won't stop fussing, do I continue shush-pat or do I change her diaper then restart quiet time?
It appears she will not nap more than 20-45 minutes in her crib even though she sleeps just fine in it at night- how do Iget her to nap longer?
According to Tracy's book, we should be going 3 hours between feeds, but she normally does closer to every 2 hours I have started offering pacifiers more often in case she's not really hungry, and I have noticed a decrease in "comfort sucking" when I nurse- am I right in doing this? Or is her pacifier use turning into a prop? She is learning to suck her hands, too, she just doesn't have the coordination yet to keep them in her mouth.
This morning she has only slept in 20-45 minute intervals again, most recently she woke up and nursed then seemingly went right back to sleep. Do I force her to try and wake up and risk overtiredness or do I go ahead and put her down since I know she hasn't gotten any real sleep today? I don't want her nighttime sleep to suffer.
Thanks again in advance!