Hello, I'd be really grateful for some more help after my post last week.
We've extended DD's A time to 2hr45 and there has been a definite improvement in her naps - we've had a lot more naps of over an hour and she has been taking much less time to settle. However, the night wakings have suddenly got a lot worse.
For example, Monday was as follows:
WU 6:30
E 7:00, top up 8:30
A 6:30 - 9:15 (2hrs45)
S 9:15 - 10:25 (1hr10)
E 11:20, top up 12:55
A 10:25 - 13:12 (2hrs47)
S 13:12 - 13:35 (23mins)
A 13:35 - 15:28 (1hr53 -short but very fussy and showing all her tired signs)
E 15:00
S 15:28 - 17:00 (1hr20 total but woke and needed settling twice)
E 18:15, top up 19:10
A 17:00 - 19:32 (2hr32)
Bedtime 19:32
NW 20:05, 20:40, 21:40 (fed - didn't take much), 22:05 (fed again at 22:30), 23:00, 00:00, 01:00, 04:00 (fed at 4:30), 05:35 (kept falling asleep on my husband but waking up again a few minutes after being put down until 6:30).
WU 8:00am
Yesterday was similar although with slightly fewer night wakings.
She seems to have fallen into a pattern of waking at least a couple of times in the hour or two after going to bed and is obviously in a very light sleep as the slightest noise wakes her. Is this typical of being either overtired or undertired? Or could it be the result of having been rocked to sleep and waking up in her cot? (we are still rocking her to sleep at the moment as we wanted her to make sure we were getting the A time right before trying to teach her to settle independently).
She also seems to be developing a pattern of waking at around 4:30am and being wide awake for at least an hour. Again, is this typical of being either overtired or undertired? We are not putting the lights on or talking but she seems to want to be awake and up.
To what extent should the A time be reduced after a bad night's sleep where we know she has been awake a lot and is obviously tired the next day as a result?
In an ideal world we would have a 7:30am to 7:30pm day. If she has woken early and won't go back to sleep, should bedtime be brought forward so that it is still a 12 hour day (eg should we have had a 6:30pm bedtime on Monday)? Or is it important to have a consistent bedtime so that she gets used to sleeping at that time?
Finally, should we be aiming for the same A time before bedtime or can this period be a bit shorter so that bedtime is around the right time?
Sorry for so many questions - I'd just really like to figure out what's going on so we can put it right. Thank you