2-1 transition help with 1 year old

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

Set naps and bedtime are quite a bit easier to do at this point!

[JennVanessa1083]

Very true...he never did well on set naps before.

So wondering for an almost 13 month old, do I aim to keep a 12 hour day?

So for set nap and BT, maybe:

WU 8 am
S 1-3 pm
BT 8 pm

I'm going to gradually increase to 5 hours prenap or is that counterproductive?

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

At this stage it probably is counterproductive I think.

We always tried to keep a 12 hr day with DD1 & DD2 (sometimes shorter of the nap was especially bad!!) but with DD3 it had to be a long day as her max at night was 11/11.5 hrs. Some kids can handle it and some need ebt.

[JennVanessa1083]

That's the problem with our situation. He usually does 11 hour nights so not sure if a 12 hour day will work.

[MasynSpencerElliotte]

He may surprise you! Or you may have to do some low key A times to push the morning out a bit once you have a better idea of how long he will nap for.

[JennVanessa1083]

Very true! So he woke up at 7:30 today so I'm going to take the plunge for a one nap on a 5 hour A time  this can either go really well or horribly wrong lol

Do I do another 5A after the nap? Or is that too much? I'm a little nervous about pushing too hard too fast. I have heard of horror stories of pushing to one nap too fast and ending up with a really OT baby. How do I know if I should do a 2 nap day instead of a one nap day if I need to switch back and forth?

[Shiv52]

Yes I found setting them give or take 10/15 mins was the way to go.

[JennVanessa1083]

Well he cried and fought sleep from OT. He looked exhausted when having a prenap snack then was crying and fighting with his eyes closed so I know that's classic OT. He went down at 5 hrs and woke up fussing and crying at 1hr. Took 15 minutes of APOP to resettle and he's twitchy  I'm hoping for a nice long nap to do 4.5-4.75 hours A to bed. 

But him crying and fighting this hard is common when switching to 1 nap? Maybe I should have done a longer wind down. Maybe the jump was too much For him?

Are OT wakings at naps and BT expected when first adjusting to one nap?

[JennVanessa1083]

Update: I did a 5 hour A after a broken 1.75 nap and it was disastrous lol

He woke up 3 times including less than an hour after BT and one long NW in the middle of the night. I also got a EMW but that was due to a diaper leak 

He wouldn't go back to sleep after that so he totaled at less than10.5 hours of sleep smh.

Not sure what to do. I'm planning on doing a long am at around 4.5 A then a CN. I don't want him to wake even earlier tomorrow from OT.

Should I expect horrible nights for now? Or is this an indicator that he's quite not ready for one nap.

I did this yesterday:

WU 7:30 am
S 12:30- 2:30 (woke up mid nap for 15 minutes)
BT 7:30 pm

NW 8:15, 12:30-1, 4:15 am; up at 6:30. I know that's an 11 hour night but he woke up crabby and looking tired so I know he could have slept longer.

[Shiv52]

It is impossible to know as you'd need to do at least 4/5 days of consistent 1 Nap to see if you're heading in the right direction. It can take a while for the body clock to realise that CN is gone.

I wonder about the NWs. As you know everyone wakes through the night as normal behaviour. How is the self settling going?  Is he at the stage where you just stick him down awake and he gets himself to sleep?

[JennVanessa1083]

Hi Shiv!

Yes he does settle himself to sleep including NW. He does have one NF that I will weak after he cuts his canines. Last night we gave him Motrin at the 8:15 NW since he woke up screaming. I figure it may be teething pain. Then at 12:30 he woke up and eventually drifted on his own after being wide awake but quiet just a lot of changing sleep positions which is how I knew he was awake for as long as he was. He had restless sleep then the diaper leak didn't help.

[zissi]

following you again jennvanessa, our LO's seem to be so similar

[JennVanessa1083]

Lol Franziska. Why can't it be easier eh?

[Shiv52]

Super on the self settling. The NWs are annoying but so long as he's settling himself and not needing you hopefully they'll settle soon.

How'd today go?

[JennVanessa1083]

Last night He was definitely OT; my fault as I put him down too late heels twitchy all night but had one long NW where he was tossing and turning for an hour

Eventually he did go to sleep. He only had 10 hours of night sleep and woke up crabby. All morning he was rubbing his eyes and yawning. I put him down at 4:5A and he slept for 1:20 hr. So we did a CN in the stroller 4 hours later like at 4:45 pm. We will see how tonight goes!

I'm wondering if gently stretching A time will work for him?