Hi there
First of all, I really want to apologise as I've raised a similar question to this a couple of times on this forum over the past few weeks. I am not sure I've been asking the right question(s) and also not sure if it was in the right section. Hoping to remedy this because I believe my problem isn't too difficult but just need to bounce some ideas off some of you lovely ladies!
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I'm after some answers on my little 11 week old man's waking at 10.30/11 pm. He has been doing this for about 3 weeks. He appears starving but I believe it has become a habit wake, as once or twice I've tried to avoid feeding him and he has settled down (I eventually caved and fed him though). He used to go from 6.30/7.00 pm to around 3/4 am, now he wakes every 4-6 hours eg: 10.30/11.30pm then again at 3.30/4am before finally waking for the day somewhere around 6.30/7 am (depending on when that previous feed was).
How would you get rid of this feed? I have done a bit of reading on it and am in two minds.
1) He is old enough to start a dream feed - should I do that by pre-empting the wake up and giving him a DF at around 10pm? (Although my thought was the purpose of the DF was to try to get that to be their last feed until the morning - ie: he might/probably still wake up at around 4 am).
2) I should get hard and do some resettling and try to remove that feed around that time altogether.
I like DFs, I did one with my now 2 year old, but that really ended up meaning she wouldn't wake at all until 5.30/6.00 am (from memory). But I feel like if I don't need to start a DF, then I shouldn't. I'm undecided on this.
I also know that one of the solutions in the book is to check that your baby is getting enough to eat during the day. He consumes a very high amount of formula (around 1000-1200ml per day) and is a large baby (7.5kg at 11weeks). So I don't think that this is a problem. He did used to have two feeds closer together in the late afternoon ie: around between 4-6.30 pm, not 3 hours spaced apart anyway, but now only takes those feeds 3 hours apart (so he might have a bottle at 3/3.30 pm and then again some more before bed... and he often only finishes half that bottle). So I am not quite sure how to "tank him up" any more.
Last night I gave him an early DF at about 8 pm as he had only had a small bottle and I wanted to see what happened. He took it all (asleep) and still woke, this time around 12.30 am and then again at 4.30 am.
I would love some thoughts about which way I should try... he was doing a 7-8-9 hour stretch quite early on (from 5 weeks) so to go backwards is a little frustrating, especially given he is a good feeder.
His EASY looks like this btw:
6.30 am WU and E
8.00 am S
8.45/9.30 am WU (sometimes this is a catnap, sometimes it is a longer sleep of around an hour or 1.5 hours)
9.30 am E
10.30 am S
12.30 pm WU and E
1.30 pm S
3.30 pm E
4.45 pm S
5.30 pm WU and A before BT ritual and bottle started around 6 pm, trying to get finished around BT at 6.30/6.45 pm
night waking and bottles as above
TIA