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Unsure of bedtime
« on: July 30, 2016, 22:49:19 pm »
My 2 week olds feedings usually end with a bottle due around 7ish and I will feed him in a dark room and swaddle him and put in his bassinet for the night. But I'm always unsure of what bedtime should be if the bottle is due around 5/6 or 8/9. Tonight he ate 3 and 6 but it's kind of early for "bedtime" especially because he spent most of the afternoon napping. Any suggestions?

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2016, 07:02:17 am »
At two weeks old I was still going with the flow and DD3 didn't go to bed until I did. So I'd keep her downstairs. So in your case Id have made bed 9pm as youre right 6pm is very early.





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« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2016, 20:14:46 pm »
What about a day like gods when he's eating more frequent but hasn't napped all afternoon ?! He took an 1.5 nap from 1045-1215 and ate at 1230 and 330 but hasn't napped since then. If I can get him to nap now around 430 do I wand him after 2 hours to feed and then put him back to bed for the night? Being that 930 would be the next feed?

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2016, 11:59:49 am »
How'd you make out?



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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2016, 12:55:45 pm »
I'd have let him nap and did bedtime after 9.30 feed.  At this stage it's more about the sequence of EAS than timings xx





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« Reply #5 on: August 02, 2016, 13:13:21 pm »
I did let him sleep from 430-630 and woke him for his next feed which was 630 but  he could barely stay awake And only took 2 ounces.  So I did put him in his bassinet for bed around seven   And he woke again to eat at 9:30  but once we got to 330 4 o'clock in the morning he was sort of more awake than sleeping so I got him up at six.  I guess this was due to the no nap early bedtime. Part of the fun of being a newborn :) tiday he's been crying with gas so hope to get some good naps.

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« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2016, 12:01:55 pm »
3 week old has been waking every 3 hours to feed usually 11 (4 hours from last feeding) then 2 then 5. Sometimes he goes back to sleep after the 5am feeding but sometimes he stays awake and then calls back to sleep around 730 and sometimes he falls right back to sleep and wakes or I wake him by 7/730. Any way to get this to be more consistent or am I asking too much from a 3 week old ;) lol

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2016, 13:00:11 pm »
To be it honestly sounds perfectly reasonable for a 3 week old.



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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2016, 19:23:29 pm »
Yeah I think that's normal too!!! GS at 3/4 weeks too x





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« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2016, 21:58:49 pm »
Im still having trouble with the naps though. He doesn't really take them lol. Or he'll take a bunch of 15-30 min naps. Or he will nap late like5/6 pm.

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« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2016, 22:54:00 pm »
Oh and the constant crying...

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2016, 09:48:13 am »
Just reading back through. im wondering why you are waking him? In the mornings or to try and get a set bedtime?? I think for such a teeny baby that is likely causing OT. At that age I only woke if she'd gone a half hour over a feed. 

Have you a sling? If you're only getting short naps it could be he needs some more reassurance and comfort and hed likely sleep better in a sling.

Is there any reflux issues?   I know it's very hard to tell in such a new baby.

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« Reply #12 on: August 06, 2016, 10:37:41 am »
I'm not waking him just meant we are starting the day with that first feed by u swaddling lights on etc meaning it's time to start the day. Just trying to make I'm aware of when it's nighttime and when it's day. Sorry I didn't make that clear. As far as bedtime I'm always unsure when he wants to nap so late in the day. Like if it's 6pm and he's napping and due to eat at 8 at which time I would swaddle him and put him to bed for the night. But being that he's napping so late and close to bedtime will that cause him to not make it until morning to "wake up" for the day. Does that make sense? I do think now that maybe it is a bit of reflux going to call dr.

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« Reply #13 on: August 06, 2016, 20:50:54 pm »
Yeah if it's reflux that could be certainly causing some issues.

How'd today go lovely?





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« Reply #14 on: August 06, 2016, 21:07:45 pm »
 Today was better !  I sat him on his Boppy pillow which is a bit of an incline so he's not slumped over and it seemed to help his feeding plus I went back to the smaller nipple until I can find a new bottle I also use the gas drops which seem to help and he napped which was great

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« Reply #15 on: August 06, 2016, 21:09:01 pm »
One more thing ...  How late in the day should I let him nap I never wanted to be too close to bedtime  Not sure if it matters at this age

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #16 on: August 06, 2016, 21:50:19 pm »
At this age A time is so short that it's not a huge issue really. I'd say after 8/9pm is definitely 'night time'. And just gently introduce bedtime rituals like you are doing. Mine still sleeps down on us and I take her to bed at 11 for DF then that's her in bed. I have two bigger DDs so we get no peace when they're up so we value those couple of hours to snuggle her without someone carrying on!





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« Reply #17 on: August 06, 2016, 22:50:28 pm »
Tonight he fell asleep around 615 and he'll be due to eat around 730 so I guess I'll just let him sleep until then and feed him and put him in bassinet for bed. Just hope it doesn't affect his night time sleep. :)

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #18 on: August 07, 2016, 08:04:24 am »
When you woke did he take a full feed ok?





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« Reply #19 on: August 07, 2016, 10:24:42 am »
He took about 3 oz usually takes about 5 but he went right to bed and woke up 4 hrs later than every 3 last feeding at 4 am and he is still asleep at 630 am. So I guess it just depends ?!

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« Reply #20 on: August 10, 2016, 23:48:40 pm »
Lo usually takes his last feeding around 7 and then right into bassinet for bed. He will usually do his longest stretch of 4-5 hours before he wakes for next feed. My question is a day like today his last nap I woke him to eat at 445 he had been napping for an hour but was due to eat it had been about 3-3.5 hours. Do he was tired again around 6. Do I just keep him up until his next feed at 730/8 ? What I ended up doing becusde he was tired and crying was I just fed him early and put to bed. Late afternoon is tricky with naps but now that he's 4 weeks old I'm trying to get into s routine. 

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« Reply #21 on: August 11, 2016, 08:28:10 am »
I don't think I'd have woken him until 3.45/4 hours after his feed especially as day sleep is tricky for him at the minute. I have let him sleep then feed or you'll find he's just tired and cranky. I'd have fed when he woke did some A time then so bedtime routine and feed again. More like a cluster feed. 

At 4 weeks he is only little so I personally wouldn't wake as mine all would have gotten OT and I think consolidated sleep is more important than having a set bedtime yk?





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« Reply #22 on: August 11, 2016, 10:25:28 am »
That makes sense! I just thought it was better to wake every 3 hrs to feed as to keep the feedings on point and to keep that night sleep better. Ok I won't wake today (I only did that once ;) although that is kind of what I ended up doing feeding at 5 and then again at 715 and put to bed. Then his 330 am feeding he wakes but only takes 2 oz because he can't stay awake then he wakes again 2 hrs later at 530 and same thing takes only a bit and falls back again. He's also managing to unswaddle himself and wakes up.

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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #23 on: August 11, 2016, 23:47:50 pm »
Yes I agree I never woke either if my LOs to feed unless they were sleeping a silly long time.  Are you BF or FF?



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« Reply #24 on: August 11, 2016, 23:58:47 pm »
He usually wakes himself. He just started napping well ;) I'm formula feeding. I'm still feeding him every 3-3.5 hrs during day and at night he had been doing a good stretch at first 4.5-5 hours. Then he wakes every 3 or every 2 sonetimes when I can't keep him awake to eat because he will only eat 2 oz and passes out so he'll wake again 2 hrs later.

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« Reply #25 on: August 12, 2016, 00:41:19 am »
Another thing im noticing at bedtime he cries a few times after I put him down and he's wiggling around in is swaddle blanket if I loosen it or let's his hands out a bit he seems to settle down. Is it possible he doesn't want to be tightly swaddled anymore? I just don't want him to be able to unswaddle himself during the night and pull it over his face or get cold.

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« Reply #26 on: August 12, 2016, 09:46:23 am »
He's young to be resisting the swaddle but not of mine ever liked it.  Could it be wind.  Mine gets all wriggly and if I lift her or just move her a bit she often then farts so I know it's trapped wind with her.   Sounds like he's doing great with the feeding. We get that frequent early feeding but not taking much. I tried resettling a few times to see if I could get her back to sleep so she'd take more next time but no joy.

I'm just grateful mine goes straight back to sleep after eating and there is no nonsense like I had with my other two ;)





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« Reply #27 on: August 12, 2016, 11:28:19 am »
It was gas and he's still in pain this morning  didn't eat much at all during the night kept wriggling up and crying. I gave him the gas drops which usually help but they haven't. Poor baby that's a long time to be in pain from gas. He was doing so well. The only thing different is we were feeding him while he layed on his boppy pillow and the past two days I've been holding him to feed. He  seems to be in a better position on the pillow gets less gassy.   I guess I could try that again just missed holding him to feed

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« Reply #28 on: August 12, 2016, 11:59:30 am »
I'd keep holding to feed for sure. It's great for bonding. Just burp a bit longer after?





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Re: Unsure of bedtime
« Reply #29 on: August 12, 2016, 12:03:41 pm »
My DS was always very gassy too, what bottles are you using? We switched to the Playtex Drop Ins because you can push all the air out of the bag.  Also switched to a "gentle" formula where the proteins are partially broken down so it is easier for them to digest.  We used Enfamil Gentlease (not sure if you have that in your neck of the world).



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« Reply #30 on: August 12, 2016, 14:41:15 pm »
I agree with bonding by holding during feeding of course we had tried  sitting him on the boppy out of desperation to get him to eat well. So that's tricky. Not sure if I should continue or hold him and risk the gas getting bad again. I called the dr and she didn't recommend changing the formula. Not sure if I should. Yes we do have enfamil maybe I'll give it a shot.