Hi-
I'm so sorry for the rough times. This beginning is most def very challenging and especially with another toddler in the house. I promise one thing; this will all pass and things will get better! I know I felt frustrated and above all exhausted in those first months. In time, DS1 learned as well to quiet down or stay where he needed to while I napped DS2.
I was never a fan of the iPad/tablet/phones... BUT, it was the only way he stayed put, safe, and occupied! For now, in these days- you do what you have to, to survive
It's super overwhelming and extremely hard, I know. But it will get easier. This is just temporary, and next thing you, baby is 1. Right now I suggest you do anything you have to do to get baby to sleep. How about a simple car ride? Stroll to the park, or favorite store? Do you have a swing? I would use anything! I know I did!!!
I just went through those crazy days--- it gets better I promise. Keep us posted and I hope you find the peace you need soon. It's not easy! Venting away always helps and many moms here willing to be here! Me included!
Xo positive vibes your way!