Thanks again for your great replies, so grateful!
Shiv52, yes I totally understand what you mean about PU being too close to rocking to sleep. My concern is that I actually think he would be more upset if I didn't pick him up, and just tried to shush/pat in the cot. He doesn't seem to care that I'm touching him or shushing him, he just wants to be picked up! I guess I need to give it a try and just play it by ear, and see what is least upsetting for him.
Interesting what you say about his awake times, I have been aware that his awake times haven't really increased in the last couple of months. I tend to take him for his nap when he starts to get fussy and show tired signs like rubbing eyes, yawning etc. But I could try and keep him going for a bit longer by feeding him, change of environment etc. As you say he may be more willing to sleep if he's more tired. Will definitely give that a try, thank you.
He doesn't have a dummy, took one a couple of times when he was tiny but then went off it. Now he won't take one at all.
So I will definitely just focus on naps for now and see how we get on. You've given me some great advice and things to try so thank you very much
I think I'm just feeling a bit negative because on the odd occasion I've tried to put him down drowsy but not asleep he has cried immediately and it's ended up taking 15 times or more to put him down. But admittedly I haven't really been 100% consistent and done it at every nap time so if I commit to it properly I hope I will see some results.
MJ&N, did you used to rock your baby to sleep, and how did you get him to settle in the crib? Just gradually putting him down more and more awake? Great to hear it only took a few weeks - better than the long months that I imagined it would take! We have a good bedtime routine now, but naptimes just consist of: switch fan on (white noise), undress, into sleeping bag, lie down on bed to breastfeed, then rock him, then into cot to sleep. I wonder if I should introduce a lullaby like at bedtime, maybe this would help...? I totally get what you mean about the snuggles, they'll be grown in no time and we'll be wondering where our tiny babies have gone!!