Hi there.
Looks like a couple of things going on:
- possible prop with the bottle for sleep
- 2-1 transition starting
- still having a night feed
It's up to you if you tackle one thing at a time or do a bit of everything.
I would suggest a gradual wean on the NF so he isn't screaming to make you cave in.
Reduce the night feed by 1oz so make 1oz less than usual and offer to him as needed, take with you a bottle of water for back up, you only give the water if he is really asking for more and won't settle (he will settle, this is going to be easy, honestly it sounds harder than it is)
If he drains the bottle night 1 then night 2 you stay at the same amount and night 3 you reduce by a further 1oz (take water in another bottle)
Continue as above until he either doesn't wake or you are down to 1oz, drop the 1oz and shush/pat or adapted to sooth if needed, if he is very fussy offer the water (I dare say you won't need it).
If any night he does not drain the bottle record how much he took, this is the maximum amount you offer the next night.
Once he isn't taking lots of milk in the night you will be able to see where teh milk and solids feeds end up in the day and how you feel about quantity and so on.
With the naps and your need to be out the house a couple of options:
- do naps in the stroller (1 or both) so that you can begin the nap at home or out and about, assuming you can bring him in to continue his nap after you've picked LO up from school
- have a think about your A times and the 2-1 transition. One nap will get shorter and one will stay a decent length. This can go on for quite some time. A shorter nap can have a shorter A time before it if your LO is generally happy to be put down UT. If you write down you day with your school run times you might even see a time slot that will work for him, maybe 30 min nap in the morning and 2hr in the afternoon. You will need to take into account the A time to BT too, some like it long some short, ending a nap at 2.30 means you will likely need to move BT either no CN and EBT or try to put a CN in but BT is likely to end up very late.
Have a think and see what you can come up with, what you think might work for your LO, you know him best and then perhaps post and we can have a look?
Some 10 month+ can do 4hr A so one possible routine could (just as example) be:
WU 8.00am
E 8.00
8.30 school run
A 4hr
S 12.00 - 2.00
2.30 school run
A 3
S 5 - 5.30
A 3
BT 8.30pm
I'm not saying your LO is ready for this today or this week, but just showing you that it's possible to think outside the box shift BT and WU and fit those suitable A times and nap lengths into the day. Of course your know your LO best, there is also flexibility there to do a 3.5hr A if you think that's the right length for now.
What do you think?