Sounds like the nap drop to me.
If she has managed the day you describe I think you are doing brilliantly! This could be the easiest nap-drop on record 
Not sure what time you did BT when the nap was still there, or how long she napped for, so just make sure she goes to bed earlier to make up for the missed nap. Quite often the night sleep might not seem long enough but over time they can lengthen the night a bit. I think mine did 11hr night when he dropped his nap but over time it gradually lengthened to 12hrs which he continued to do for a couple of years.
I would continue with the no nap days and just make sure her BT is suitable (some LOs extend the night better with earlier BT rather than expecting them to wake later in the morning). If the tiredness builds up over a week or two you could offer a one-off nap one day and just see if she will take it (I wouldn't force it, just offer).
Mine never did quiet time on his own either. There was no way he was going to lay on his bed or just be quiet. I know a lot of people don't like screen time for young children but I've also seen many who use the TV with a gentle kids programme on as a way to relax LOs who won't otherwise have a quiet time. She might kind of calm down and zone out for a little while with a TV programme just to give her a bit of down time. Depends how you feel about it and if you find TV over stimulating or not. Reading books together can be a nice quiet time but for some LOs this is also very stimulating - mine would more easily get a rest watching TV where as books he just wanted to read and read, not relaxing at all.
Personally the nap drop was tiring for me. I felt I really needed that break from my DS but soon got used to it. I also found an afternoon toddler ballet class to take him to which in a way felt like a short break for me, I could mostly just sit and watch.
Hi hun thanks for quick reply. Before these days, we have 1.5hrs nap, sleep from 7:30 to 7:30 (sleep about 11hrs, I just write down the time I put her down and pick her up)
Guess what, she had 1.5hrs nap today, but not as easy as usual, I lay down with her for 10 minutes and noticed her started to close her eyes, so I told her I had to go out for a while but would be back, she said yes. I left, she fell asleep in 10 minutes. So today's bedtime was 7:30 and it went well.
Well, it is more and more confusing right? But I think it is very hard to find out the answer now, just keep trying to do my best to keep a good routine. And for the past nap transition and nap dropping, I have to say it went smoothly everytime, BUT my girl did drop each nap earlier than other kids. And to be honest, personally I don't hope she drop this one so early because it really makes me a little bit frustrated...I am not ready to accept kid-free time during the day is gone...but just like you said, maybe I would get used to it very soon when it really happens. After all, I do have an excellent sleeper, what could I complain?
And for the quiet time, on the first no napping day, she lay down on the sofa in the living room, and I sat in another one with my book and iphone, she was totally fine with it. But I moved her back to her room and lay down with her because I still hoped she would sleep back then. Good news, the TV doesn't suite us because she just doesn't like watching TV and bad news is she doesn't like reading neither....But if she can lie down with me, that is fine.
Anyway, toddler, so tricky huh? I'll keep updating if you or somebody else are still interested..And again thank you so much, feel better just by talking to you:)
