HI! thank you SO much for responding!
so this is our schedule:
WU at 7am, i am very strict about this as I return to work in two weeks and this is when she needs to wake up for me to feed her and get her out the door before the nanny will come
nap 1 at 8am, it seems like she gets tired so quickly! but we dont want to miss the sleep window, but still cant seem to "stretch" her
feed at 10
nap 2 is 11:15, there is 1-2 wake ups where we have to shush pat her back to bed for 10 minutes or so
feed at 1
nap 3 is 2/230, this is usually the most difficult nap and we shush pat for 30-45 minutes, and i wonder if she is really tired or just laughing at us
feed at 4
nap 4 is 5-45
BT is our "disaster zone," we are still experimenting with times, but yes! it is so late! we do routine at 715/730 ( or as long as she "stretches,' in bed at 745/8 and sleeps for 45 minutes or so then awake, then we shush pat till 945-1030 or whenever she falls asleep, or i give her another feed as a dream feed, but ends up becoming me nursing her to sleep, because she falls asleep on the breast- i am so worried this will become a case of accidental parenting/ bad habit!
I would LOVE LOVE LOVE any advise and help please
Thank you!!!!!