Wow, thank you for your response and information!! Hard to picture my LO as a 15 year old but I pray to see her there one day!!
I am going to try and tweak some things tomorrow and see how she does, starting with the light feed in her room before her first nap after a push of her A time. We shall see how that goes for her first EAS.
Part of the problem is definitely the reflux. I feel her symptoms masked so much of the "getting to know her" phase. And I've been over -compensating for when she was so uncomfortable; without meaning to, developed myself into a prop for sleeping. Instead of guiding her to sleep, I was doing too much shh/pat, holding her pacifier in place or replacing too quickly, re-swaddling her too tightly...she was never getting a chance to self-soothe. I did more of what I did with my DS when he was little this evening and it seems to have helped.
I really appreciate the advice!