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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #30 on: December 07, 2017, 06:47:45 am »
Sorry, tough day. Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Ended up arguing with DH too, heís getting irritated that I go to bed so early at 9.30. And Iím mad that he often comes home after the kids are asleep so has no clue how to put his own baby to sleep.

She had maybe one day where she made it passed the 30min mark but so far sheís still waking at that time.
Iím wondering what on earth went wrong yesterday with the 2h bed time? I mean she was after a 2h A so she should have gone to sleep fast.

She had a ew at 6.30 on top of the 9.30pm BT but I managed to get her back into an uneasy sleep till 7.20am counting that as her WU time.
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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #31 on: December 07, 2017, 09:49:45 am »
Bed time could be lots of things. If it doesn't become something that happen every day, I'd just chalk it up as an oddity.

Hugs xx hope things are better for you soon.

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #32 on: December 07, 2017, 10:22:18 am »
Think teeth are incoming. She keeps gnawing on whatever she can and I can see two lines where the teeth should be. Not through the gym yet though. Can teething be ok during the day but worse at night? May seem a silly question as she isnít my first but DD1 would just wake in the morning with a tooth, no screaming at all.
Or I may be looking for an excuse, sheís only 5 months old, DD1 was 8 months old before her first tooth cane.
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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #33 on: December 07, 2017, 21:15:05 pm »
Can teething be ok during the day but worse at night?
Yup, absolutely - more to distract her in the day. I think you just hit the teething jackpot with your first. Mine had teeth at this age and its did mess with his sleep a lot.

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #34 on: December 08, 2017, 06:45:32 am »
I kept trying to check her gum yesterday and I think I imagined those to lines.
Anyway, she slept through the 30min mark and did the 40min one instead and a happy chatty NW. definitely increasing her A time today. The night was otherwise 3nf  and one long chatty nw. Going to be cranky today - me not her!





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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #35 on: December 08, 2017, 09:42:58 am »
Hmmm she is a bit tricky isn't she?! Fingers crossed for a better day.

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #36 on: December 08, 2017, 10:28:37 am »
Thank you for all the hand holding.
I totally donít get this kid. Dh isnít much help either, just staying at work as long as he can and coming home when they are both asleep 😖





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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #37 on: December 09, 2017, 06:51:07 am »
Weíre in a bit of a pickle now. Not sure what to do.
Yesterday wanted to extend her A but it was all a bit of a mess. Had to take DD1 into kindergarten so left DD2 with DH and instructions to start her wd at 2hA. Figured it would take 10-15 min for him to get her to sleep. He said she was out in 2 min. So that nap was 40min, next A i did 2h and S 1.5h. Then I apoped a nap at 1.59A because I was supposed to pick DD1 up and wanted DD2 to get at least 40min sleep before Iíd have to wake her. Dh called that heíll pick DD1 up so DD2 finally slept 1.5h. The final A ended up being 2.5h. She went to bed a tad OT so woke and hour later and had to put her back to sleep. NF 10, 2 and 4.40 she woke, wasnít hungry just wanted to play. After 30min I took her to our dark bathroom and she fell asleep but kept waking chatty every 10min. 6am I was about to loose it to gave her to DH to try get to sleep and went to lay down on the sofa. Looked in 6.20 DH is snoring... she isnít sleeping. Took her back to the bathroom and she fell asleep instantly but for 40min. Iím rocking her and she fell asleep at some point , woke 7.53am
So was that 5amish WU  an ew and that was the start to the day and I have just done a too short First A so tonight I get no sleep as usual? Or was that a nw and 7.50am is the start to the day?
Donít know how weíll manage today as she will only get the chance for one long nap in the morning. The rest of the day we have a birthday and a family visit, so sheíll have to do her 20min naps in the sling very os and OT.
From Monday I can work on extending properly because Sunday we are all over the place in the afternoon too. So for i day 1.15A or 2.20?
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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #38 on: December 09, 2017, 21:14:38 pm »
Or was that a nw and 7.50am is the start to the day?
I would just call it a long happy NW.

I'd go for 2:20 and see how you go. Glad DH is helping out a bit.

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #39 on: December 10, 2017, 04:03:03 am »
Ended up with This:
WU 7.53
S 10.08
Wu 11.40
S14.00 in sling we were out
Wu 14.45
S 16.35 sling
Wu 17.20
EBT 19.20
Nw 20, 20.30, NF 10.00,1am
Itís 5am and sheís been up the last hour.
So more A? What would the A be on a short nap? I did about 2 h but thatís obviously not working





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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #40 on: December 10, 2017, 05:42:15 am »
I don't think she needs a reduction in the next A time after an UT nap - so just do the 2:15-2:20 again. I reckon I'd reduce to 2hr if she did a 30min OT nap though.

Did you feed at that long NW? DYT it might be developmental with sitting/crawling? Otherwise, yes, keep it to at least 2:20 first A time and maybe a smidgeon longer and see what happens.

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #41 on: December 10, 2017, 07:17:59 am »
She finally fell asleep at 5.20, woke 6.30 and I got her back to sleep pretty quickly on me till 8am.
Will try 2.20ish today
Yes I fed mid way through the nw. I tried as soon as she woke thinking she was hungry but she wouldnít even latch on till much later.
She is sitting a bit better, slowly working out how to support herself on her hands before she topples to the side. Iíd be handling this all better if it wasnít on top of weeks and weeks of bad nights.





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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #42 on: December 10, 2017, 11:27:37 am »
What do you think of this: A2.20 CN, A 2h s 1.5-2h, A2.20, CN in sling in the way to pick her sister up?
That way I can st the first nap but also take into account that it wonít go longer than 40min because she still doesnít transition on her own and I can hold her through nap 2 to make sure she gets one ok one?
WU 7.30
S 9.50
WU 10.30
S 12.30
WU 2.30
S4.50 ish in sling
WU 5.30
BT 7.30
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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #43 on: December 10, 2017, 20:18:04 pm »
Looks the goods. Should do the trick for a while. Give it a go for a bit and see how she goes.

The exhaustion really is awful, makes everything seem worse. Hugs xx

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Re: Hand holding and advice pls
« Reply #44 on: December 12, 2017, 10:02:39 am »
Looks to be working. I wont write about our lack of cot parties now because it will jinx it!
Sheís still doing 3nf so basically up every 3h at night. We have some nw within 1.5h of BT. Iím wondering if we arenít skating the edge of OT. She going down a screaming mess at nap time after 2.20A and BT is similar. Carry on with 2.20 on a long nap and 2h on a short one or pull back to 2.15?