Hi there,
I am new to this forum so have not got a chance to read through all the posts. I really need help with PU/PD and thank you in advance!
My DS is 6 months tomorrow and I've started sleep trained her using the PU/PD method 17 days ago and also tried to put her on EASY since then. What is the ideal process/result for putting your baby to sleep after training using the PU/PD method? As DS is still crying hard for all of her naps / bedtime. Good news is that i don't have to nurse her to sleep anymore, but the crying is hard to tolerate after 17 days. A typical process for DS is after going through the 4S ritual, I put her down and is able to walk away from her crib. DS will play a little while, she's just learned to rollover, so she rolls left then right, then eventualy onto her tummy, but couldn't roll back on her back. I have to walk over to help her roll back, then walk away. She will start rolling again, then me helping her again. This process goes on a few times, then finally she associates me flipping her over as forcing her to sleep, then starts crying. At which point, I couldn't walk away anymore, would comfort her by saying "it's time for bed", then putting my hands on her shoulders. She countinues crying and the crying escalates to short screams for a while, and eventually I will have to press both of my hands on her shoulders for her to calm down and tired enough to drif to sleep. But then she can never sleep for more than 35 mins. I don't quite have to pick her up anymore (which I had to do for the first 7 days or so), but she's so sad every time. It takes me anywhere from 10 mins to 40 mins to get her down every time. My question is am I doing something wrong? Should I stay with her all the time until she falls asleep? By pressing both my hands on her shoulders, is that a new prop? Is this normal after 17 days of training? Will the crying last forever for all her naps? Thought she should be able to play by herself for a while then drift to sleep on her own. But this only happens to me a few times when she's really tired. I think she's developing a fear for sleep and sometimes starts crying before I put her down.
Also list my day below to help:
W: 7-7:30
E: 7-7:30
A: 7:30 - 10
S: 10-10:30 (or later depends on how long it takes to get her settle)
E: 10:30 or 11am as trying to get her on a 4 hour rountine
A: 11-1:30
S: 1:30-2
E: 3 (with 1 hr of A before)
A: 3-4:30
S: 4:30 - 5 (catnap)
Bedtime 7:30
She will wake once or twice every night to feed. I am not offering a dreamfeed as she's not gaining weight, so don't want to take away feeds.
Thanks and any advice that can help reduce the crying is much appreciated as it's heart broken!
Tracy