woke 7amsleep 9:45-11am
This is an UT nap - I thought you were doing more like 3.5hr A time for the first one given what you wrote in your first post (6:30 WU, 10 nap). 2:45 is just not enough at this age - that's appropriate for a 6mo, not a 9mo.
activity 11-2:45sleep 2:00-2:45pm
3:45 A off a short nap - did he wake himself after 45min or did you wake him? Maybe I wasn't clear. You could probably have left him to sleep a little longer if he was still sleeping, just to extend your day and make BT a little later than 6pm.
woke 6:30pmtook a bit of time for him to resettle, he was crying really hard so i went back in and rubbed his back and he was self soothing himself with his mantra cry, but when i put him down he would start outright crying again. So i picked him up and when i felt his mantra cry start to slow down i put him down and he went to sleep. I'm hoping that is the last of it tonight. Hopefully that's it.
He's clearly OT at BT here. 3:15 A off a 45min nap is still too much for him. Going off his naps and his A times, I think he needs more A time in the morning and less before bed.
Also he tends to do more of a longer activity time then most babies...... so do you think maybe i should be increasing his activity time and that maybe hes waking because he is not tired enough?
I'm not sure which babies those are but these A times are on the short end for 9mo in my experience. He is waking through the evening because he is overtired by bedtime because he's not taking restorative naps because his first 2 A times are not long enough.
What I'd suggest for him is something like this:
WU, feed
3:45-4hr A
nap (let him sleep, though you may have to cap if going over 2hr)
3:30-3:45 A
catnap (cap at 45min)
2:30-2:45 A
in bed asleep for the night