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18 month old nightfeeding
« on: January 23, 2018, 18:05:15 pm »
Hello my LG is nearly 18 month old and naps and sleeps independently in her own room and has since 9 months old. She is breastfed when she wakes in morning before and after her nap and before bed which I don't mind. I would like to cut out the 2 nights feeds though I know she doesn't need them as she eats plenty during the day and doesn't need fed or held to sleep. Has anyone any tips? Also I am a single mum and haven't anyone to help me.


Wake between 7 and 8 am the bf
Breakfast 15 min after bf
Lunch 11.30
Nap after lunch 12.30 at latest
Nap can last 2 to 3 hours (always been this way and don't think it impacts night wakening)
Bf and dinner after nap approx 2ish
Supper 6, Bf between 6.30 and 7
Bed at 7.30.
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2018, 22:44:15 pm »
Personally i just told my kids that mummy's boobies needed to sleep at night so there would be no more milk until the sun came up. I then resettled any other way without feeding. Mostly sitting by the cot and reassuring with my voice and a hand on the back.  The important thing is not to leave them to cry. There will be tears probably but it's over quickly as long as you keep offering reassurance.
There's a good book you can read with her called  Nursies When The Sun Shines.
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2018, 23:06:38 pm »
I don't know of she will be able to understand what I'm saying and my presence at night seems to make her worse
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #3 on: January 26, 2018, 00:47:29 am »
My 3 definitely understood  to varying degrees when I night weaned at 12.5mo, 15mo and 16.5mo respectively.


It's really important that you stay with LO so she doesn't feel abandoned. Breaking that bond of trust that you will be there when she needs you is not a good idea. Plus it is very stressful for children to be left to cry alone even for short periods and the stress hormones are toxic to brain development.
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #4 on: January 26, 2018, 01:05:26 am »
Their ability to understand is much further developed than their ability to communicate, so she may well understand more than you give her credit for.  It is really important you stay with her to give her reassurance. If you are really consistent and don't feed, she will get the picture pretty quickly. Its awful at the time when you're there and she's screaming for milk, so being really sure you're ready to make the change before you start and sticking to your plan is essential.
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #5 on: January 26, 2018, 09:03:28 am »
But it is safe to do it cold turkey?
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #6 on: January 26, 2018, 09:52:09 am »
absolutely safe to do it cold turkey.

I helped both my boys drop their feeds before 18months.

I started by having
1) a key phrase that I said when I put them to bed & at night waking like "it's sleep time, night night" Using my hand to stroke/ pat when they were upset.
2) offering water in a sippy cup
3) not giving in the first time they woke, but feeding on subsequent wake ups. That is key if you try & get her to sleep for 30mins then give in & feed you send a message that if she is upset for long enough she gets the feed.
4) being calm & relaxed in my breathing to give the feeling that it wasn't stressful.
5) knowing that it could take 2 hours on the first night.
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Re: 18 month old nightfeeding
« Reply #7 on: January 28, 2018, 10:17:49 am »
Ive decided I'm going to cut out the day feeds first. I think their is an association between Bf and being tired so maybe it will be easier to do fay's first. I've to take a trip to London in my so my goal is to be fully weaned day and night by then x
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