Hi there,
Naps are getting out of control again and it's starting to affect night time sleep (it's also affecting me
)
LO is 15weeks. Naps used to be 45-50min and are now 25-35. She's been on 1h30 A since she was 10w old and I guess we might need to increase. But I'd need someone to walk me through it as she's obviously also OT from the short naps.
A couple of days this week, for info:
MONDAY
E 7.15-7.35
S 7.45 (she treats that bit as night)
A 9.03
E 9.20
A 9.25
S 10.09 (took 5min to fall asleep, by herself without patting)
A 10.38 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 11.28
A 11.37
S 12.20 (took 20min to fall asleep, needed my hand on her)
A 12.53 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 13.50
A 14.02
S 15.47 (took 1h40 of crying
)
A 16.14 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 16.40
A 16.35
S put down at 17.20, gave up after 1h of crying
E 18.30
19.30 bath, bedtime routine
E 20.00-20.25 ; 20h45-21h00 (cluster feeding)
S 21h15
(woke up 22h00 crying but we resettled her quickly. Then slept 10-8.30 with feeds at 4am and 7.30am)
SUNDAY
E 7.35-7.50
S 7.50 (treat as night time)
A 8.30
E 9.45
A 9.52
S 10.20
A 10.55 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 12.15
A 12.20 (short wind down/sleeping bag)
S 13.25 (took 1h of crying)
A 14.20 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 15.40
A 15.50
S 15.55
A 16.19 (tried for 30min to extend)
E 17.55
S 18.34 (long cluster feed, fell asleep on breast by accident)
A 18.49
E 20.07-20.25
E 20.47-21.01 (cluster feeding. Falling asleep then waking up again to eat avidly)
S 21.15
Then slept perfectly 9.15-8.30 with feeds 3.30 and 7am.
I thought maybe she was UT for the first nap and then became OT from catnap so today I upped her first A time from 1h to 1h20min (it's always the shortest of the day). Big mistake as it backfired!!
We had 1h40min of crying before a 18min nap.
Then I put her down early after 1h10 for next nap: 1h of crying for 15min nap
Then I reduced again to 1h A time and finally got a 32min nap.
No nap after 5pm again.
It's starting to make me feel quite depressed and anxious, spending hours in the dark listening to her cry. I feel like I'm failing her as a mother and it's tough. I'd be grateful for any help or advice.
For info:
* we have a NAP ROUTINE: always in cot, curtains drawn, sleeping bag (she hates swaddle and white noise, and refuses dummy).
* TO SETTLE: A firm hand on her chest and caressing her head is what works (sush/pat is now too stimulating). If crying I do that and PU/PD (but it usually doesn't work: if we reach that point, just going back towards the mattress makes her cry again)
* She's quite GOOD AT FALLING ASLEEP BY HERSELF normally, is willing to do it most of the time and does it very well at night (goes back by herself if wakes up early in the morning). We could even let her fall asleep by herself in the room until 10days ago when it all became awful again. So I really think bad A time is the problem.
* EXTEND NAPS: We've been trying systematically through both methods (personal version of sush/pat and W2S) for a few weeks with no success. Now I feel it's taking too much A time away and adding even more stress for both of us so I've decided to stop for a while.
* She's EBF and teething a bit.
Thank you!!!!