Hi there
Looking at what your LO has done up to now I would guess her day sleep is more like that of a LO at least a month older. There's nothing wrong with this at all,but I'd probably use that as guidance when thinking about A times and nap length rather than looking at her real age on the guidance times.
Here's the A times, see if you agree with what I've said:
https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=84884.0If I assume this to be the case then a LO a month+ older would now need a longer A time to be able to nap well. When the A times start to get longer there isn't time in the day to have 2 long naps and still keep BT the same time for a 12hr night. So either:
- increase A times and both naps but BT moves later and night is shorter
or
- increase one A time and one nap, the other nap stays short with a suitable A time either side so that LO is still well rested. BT stays the same and continue a 12hr night (I would choose this!!)
It doesn't matter which nap you increase the length of, some LOs have a preference for longer am or longer pm nap, you might have a feeling which would be the best to have as the long nap.
If you choose long am nap then:
Increase first A time in increments until you find the sweet spot for a long nap. Use W2S to sooth through the 45 min transition to build the sleep habit and show her she is expected to sleep longer. Then normal length A time (3hr you were doing) let her nap the shorter nap (maybe 45 mi or 1hr) and normal BT, hopefully that all fits in ok.
If you choose long pm nap then:
Do not increase first A time, leave at 2hr 45 or 3hr whichever she accepts the nap on. Let her CN do not attempt to lengthen. After the CN do a slightly longer A time, she will already be more tired from the shorter nap but do not reduce the A significantly instead keep it 3hr, and increase in increments to the point she does a good pm nap, again use W2S to help the habit. Normal BT and 12hr night.
Whilst the short naps and routine going off track is frustrating I must say you've had a remarkably good routine compared to some because often LOs between 4 -6 months go through a phase of 40 min naps and you've managed to avoid that AND have 12hr nights. I am jealous!
I think you can get back on track relatively soon if you follow these signals that she needs longer awake in the day.
hope this helps