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What sleep does my 3y3m old actually need?
« on: May 08, 2018, 16:28:49 pm »
Hiya!

My 3 year old (turned at the end of January), has never been a great sleeper.

He started sleeping well once I put him in the room with his sister (4y8m).

He's pretty chilled... more so since he's gotten older.

The problem is, he's waking up in the night. Now he isn't calling us or crying or shouting etc but he can be up for a couple of hours just sitting there sucking his thumb and playing with his ear in the dark and then the next day he is super tired for nursery.

Some routines with results we have tried:

7am wake
1pm - 2pm nap (nursery)
6.30/7pm bed
- he could be awake in his bed for a few hours until he falls asleep.

7am wake
*No nap*
6/6.30pm bed falls asleep straight away
- most likely wake up at 1am or 3am and up for a couple hours or if 5am he will be up from then... quietly but won't go back to sleep and then will be tired the next day.

7am wake
11am - 12.15 nap (at home)
6.30/7pm bed. Falls asleep within 10 or 15 mins
- might wake up... could be at 5am but sit quietly until the grow clock is yellow.

I dont know what he needs. Maybe this will just be him?

My 4 year old in the same room wakes at 7am.... No nap at school. Goes to bed anywhere from 6am to 7pm and sleeps straight away and sleeps all the way through.

DS1s sleep really baffles me. Nothing seems to work.

Is he over tired? Under tired? No idea.

(At nursery 4 days a week)

Any insight would be thankfully received  ???

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Re: What sleep does my 3y3m old actually need?
« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2018, 23:39:03 pm »
Maybe he needs to drop the nap but gradually. You can't tell a lot from one or two days of a routine. You'd likely need to stick with it for a week at least to see if it helps so he could get over any residual over or undertiredness.

Just for comparison my 3y4mo is in bed 8pm, asleep 8.30pm and up 7.30 or 8am. A 30 minute nap was taking 1-2hrs off her night sleep so we dropped it. Have you checked out the 0-1 nap transition FAQs? https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=244514.0
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Re: What sleep does my 3y3m old actually need?
« Reply #2 on: May 09, 2018, 16:59:15 pm »
Oooh thank you for that! The nap could be the issue here.

Wow 30 mins of nap taking off 1-2 hrs!

I'll keep with the no nap and try and push bedtime later. See if he can handle that.

Thank you!

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Re: What sleep does my 3y3m old actually need?
« Reply #3 on: May 09, 2018, 22:34:09 pm »
Good luck
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Re: What sleep does my 3y3m old actually need?
« Reply #4 on: May 13, 2018, 18:50:11 pm »
I’m no expert but am struggling through the final nap drop at the minute and have to agree with Ali. My lo has a 30 min nap at my mums the other day after a week of no naps and doing 11-12 hr nights. We lost over an hour now got sleep for that little nap 😳
We’ve had a trickier week this week, surviving, just, on 11 hrs night sleep but bedtime has crept earlier and therefore wu is before 6!!
Today I allowed a tiny 15 mins in the car before lunch and I’ve got everything crossed for an ok sleep tonight.
Zoe has been supporting me on my post and we’ve talked about the fine line between ot and ut during this last nap drop.
You can see how hard it must be for them though. Other nap drops they’ve always had some days sleep to see them through til bedtime x