She’s been at daycare 5 weeks. Lunch starts at 12, they have a little playtime and then nap at 1. That’s just what she does, I’ll see if I can get some more details. If she wakes up at 645 and naps at 1 that’s not bad but getting her to sleep until 645 is hard.
I nurse her in the living room usually but if I were to APOP like that time it would be in her room to stay in the darkness.
She used to fight naps around 9mo and she would gesture to leave her room and calm down if I did. The solution to that was to increase her A time greatly and went to one nap. So in my experience it’s when she doesn’t want to sleep. It’s like she treated her bedtime as a nap I think.
My main issue is when she wakes up in the night and after she’s calm and falling asleep again (with or without nursing) I’ll put her in her crib and she’ll get upset immediately or she’ll go down fine but wake up 20 mins later and at that point I usually bring her to bed and even then she’s still fussy and needs to be calmed again.
I don’t work for the next 3 days so I’m going to attempt GW but I’m not really confident in what I’m doing. I’m going to do the same as In The past and hopefully I make faster progress than last time.
This is my plan:
She wakes up in night, I usually let her fuss until she gets upset hoping she’ll go back to sleep but almost never.
I’ll pick her up if she’s really upset. Then lay her down when she’s calm. If needed I’ll repeat.
When she’s not freaking out I’ll sit on floor with my back to her. Repeat my sleepy phrase. I rub her leg or whatever I can reach if she’s crying (which she will be). If she’s quiet I’m quiet.
I’m pretty sure this is going to take hours the first night. Hopefully gets less as the days go on, so by back to work Monday it’s less than 30 mins, although last time it was all over the place. I’ll use for naps too. Naps are so much easier!
How does this sound? Should I do anything different? Ive never been able to identify a mantra cry, will that make any difference?
Also right now I’ll nurse her if after 4am but I want her to sleep straight through until 645. Do I use the same GW technique for every wake up?
At BT I nurse her until drowsy (my next project), then put her down, walk away no problem. I think because she’s so tired. But why is it not like this during the night? I tried to do something in BT routine after nursing so it wasn’t right to bed (at 3mo) but she would just keep refusing to eat and then would get super OT so I just gave up.
Last night she slept straight through from 730 BT until 420 at which point I nursed, was able to put her down but then she woke 20 moms later and then I brought her to bed. This one wake up was amazing. But i think it was a fluke. We’ll see how tonight goes.
Thank you for your help!