Hi Ali & Creations
DS is now 18 weeks, how time just flew by
We are still waiting to see a specialist consultant for his suspected silent reflux
I took things a lot easier with naps now and it has helped a lot. Thank you so much to both of you for your advise. Lately its easier to put him for naps. I noted that starting this last week his A time has increase to 1h45 - 1h55 sometimes even to 2h. I sometimes carry him in sling ( I find it easier so I can be out and about or be doing chores at home) and some naps in the crib and he seems to be ok with that. unfortunately his nap remains at 30min for the majority of the time, I have come to accept that & wait for him to extend it when he is ready.
For the naps in crib, I do our usual wind down with 4S, and put him in crib drowsy but awake ( sometimes very drowsy). and he would drift to sleep himself, I put my hand on him and jiggle it a bit to help if he has trouble sleeping. Lately he has extended a few of the nap himself ( he woke up at 30m mark and then took about 15-20min to go back to sleep again) some 1h 20m, some 50min, sometimes I would see him stir and try to go back to sleep but not successful.
However, bed time has now become harder. I would do the same as nap time but he was not able to drift off to sleep,he become wide awake every time I put him down. After various times of me putting him down and picking him up on my shoulder again ( perhaps I shouldn't do that but am not able to shush pat him to sleep while he is wide awake in bed), I usually took longer than 1hour putting him to bed and always with shush pat on my shoulder then in my arms and already asleep transfer to bed. He would wake up at 30min into bedtime sleep and then 2 hours after that.
As he always has long stretches of night sleep, I would really like to preserve that. I wonder has that got to do with his A time increasing. I think he might be too tired at bed time and making it harder to falls asleep.
DS on 3hr EASY and because of short naps, I usually do a 5th nap so that it would not be too long stretch of awake time to bed time. It has worked well. Now that his A time has increased, it looked like there are no longer time for 5th nap or else BT would be late, but the stretch to BT is still fairly long from his 4th nap if you know what I mean
Am not sure should he be on 3.5/4hour EASY? but can he? if his naps are still very short. I now bf DS on demand as well it seems to have help with his spit up and reflux.
He has 4 naps now, bed time is usually quite early but he would wake up after 30 min into the sleep and i had to resettle. I don't know what is the right time to put him for bedtime anymore. I list 2 days of my EASY routine, hoping you guys can help me, or is it something that i just have to ride it out until his naps lengthens regularly?.
WU-6:37
E-7:56 ( didn't feed long, he was fed at 5:00am NW)
A-1h51m
S-8:29-9:04 (wd 1h30,pd1h44m)
E-9:26
A-1h35m
S-12:59-13:25 (WD1h20m I saw DS rubbing his eyes, PD 1h33m)
S-13:42 - 15:03 (he woke up at 26m and extended the nap on his own) Should I try WD at 1h20m for all naps to see if possible that his A time is still really actually be around 1h35m
E-15:15
A-2h9m
S- 17:13-17:42
A:3h
BT/S: 21:00 ( I started WD at 1h20m, and was shooting for 1h45m BT but couldn't put DS down and went through various Putting down and picking up again as he become wide awake as soon as I put him down but was drowsy at my shoulder during WD, I also tried to let him have a go and falling asleep and thus the reason why his Awake time ended at 3h, perhaps not consistent enough but now I have a fear that it will take really long to settle him to sleep and I try to help him at earlier time
NW/E: 23:00
NW/E:3:09
WU:6:20
WU- 6:20
E- 7:00
A- 1h57m
S- 8:18 -8:48 (WD 1h30m,pd1h44)
E- 10:00
A- 2h17m
S- 11:03-11:33 (we were out and slept in car seat)
E-12:03
A-1h46m
S-13:19-13:48 (wd 1h35m,pd 1h44m)
E-14:01
A-1h47m
S- 15:35-16:05 (wd 1h35m,pd 1h45m)
E-16:20
A-1h55m
BT/S- 18:01
WU 18:36 resettle, back to sleep at 19:48
NW/E 22:35 resettle by feed
NW/E 3:09 resettle by feed
WU 6:44
(sometimes he wakes at 5:00am but on this two days he has not)