Hello everyone,
I'm new to EASY and BW, but have read all the posts, so am caught up.
My LO, Aaron, will be 3 months next week, and we are trying to start him on EASY. I have two main concerns. First is that he hadn't been napping more than a total of maybe an hour a day, and that only when I held him after nursing.
The second is that he nurses to sleep. He's been doing a lot better with the amount of napping (nights are getting better, though they were never that bad....he slept through the night at 2 months, but has been very inconsistent about it). We started EASY yesterday, and he had 2 good hour and a half long naps. Today he's working on his second long nap (1 hour and counting).
Right now the real problem is that it takes soooo long to settle him for sleep that he doesn't really have much of a schedule, and when I do finally get him to go to sleep, it's because I gave up and nursed him. For example, this morning he got up at 7 and ate. He started getting tired at 8:15, so I took him in his room, swaddled him, turned on his music, gave him a paci (all of which we had been doing), then sat and cuddled with him to calm him down. He cried, then settled enough to let me put him in his bed. Then he startled, and no amount of pat/ssh or PU/PD would calm him. After about a half hour, I was in tears, so I walked away. My DH went in and reswaddled, picked up and rocked him to sleep. That whole scenario took 1.25 hours!!!! So we just let him sleep, figuring he'd eat when he woke up but I wasn't going to wake him after 15 minutes. Then he slept for 1.5 hours. When he got up, he ate, then we tried activity time. He didn't want anything to do with it, but was acting like he was still hungry (probably was since he essentially skipped a feed with the crying and the sleeping). So I nursed him until I starting getting the long stare (basically skipping the A), then tried to put him down, but he started screaming again, especially when I gave him the paci. So I gave up and nursed him to sleep.
I'm feeling very overwhlemed with this, and even though I'm already starting to see results from putting him on a schedule, trying to get him to sleep is so hard, and I feel like I'm failing when I have to put him to the breast to get him to go to sleep. Can anybody offer any suggestions or even just commisserate so I won't feel so alone?