Hello. I would like someone, anyone with the time, to help me. I think I have read just about everything there is to read with regards to baby sleeping. I have spent HOURS looking at the internet trying to find answers and now I am just too confused and don't know where to start. I was lent Tracy's book when my son was a few weeks old and I found it too complicated for my sleep-deprived brain and I thought - 'nah..can't be this organised! A schedule...how silly!' but now, my son is 16 weeks old and I cry every day because I am tired and feel totally out of my depth. My dream would be to have someone come and spend a few days with us and SHOW me what to do because I feel I need that support. We are being referred to a sleep centre but I am dreading this as I think they will be too tough on my darling little boy. I will write what he currently does and if anyone has a suggestion, please...go ahead, even better, write out a plan for me! - even BETTER....I will pay for you to fly to me and show me! ( :roll: )
Okay, here goes - as he was an unsettled baby from day 1, we got him into the habit of sleeping on us, that is, we would jiggle him, walking around the house and then slowly sit down on the couch and he will sleep in our arms, never for more than 40 mins, often needing to be resettled during that time (yup....stand up, jiggle, shush all over again). He often goes to sleep with one eye open, watching us! At night, say around 7.30, we do the "thing" and sit on the couch, whispering to each other, often watching movies with subtitles so we can have the volume down, until about 10.30 when we will crawl into bed, give him a feed (breast baby only) and go to 'sleep'. He sleeps in the crook of my arm and basically tosses and turns all night, needing to be reassured constantly. We wake up around 7am and start all over again. I keep him up for 1.5 hours then begin the sleep thing. As his naps are so short and inconsistant, I have not been able to establish a sleep, feed, play routine so his feeds fit in anywhere from the end of a sleep to the beginning, or the middle! I feed him every 3 hours.
He is a very alert boy, gets VERY excited and hyper (like his Dad). He is happy most of the time. We have spent lots of $$ on 'gadgets', even $400 on a baby hammock that he won't use. His cot is attached to our bed and I would like to keep this, if I can as I've read so much on the benefits of co-sleeping. At the very least, I want to be able to keep the cot in our room so he knows we are around. We have just purchased a teddy bear that plays womb sounds and would like to start a pick up/put down type thing on the weekend. I just don't know where to start. He has NEVER slept on his own and as soon as you put him down he'll go crazy (he plays happily on his back).
So....what do I want? I would LOVE to be able to him down for day naps, that is, put him in bed so my arms are free for a while. I would LOVE him to get past that 40 minute sleep cycle (and stop waking up after 10 minutes etc) and I would LOVE him to sleep at night (I don't care if he wakes up 2 times for a feed...just to get a restful night would be heaven). I would LOVE to be able to put him to bed after his bath etc and watch normal tv with my husband and eat my dinner with two hands.
He also sleeps in a GroBag sleeping bag as he would wriggle out of being wrapped and i used to worry about how many blankets to use etc, the GroBag make it easy in that regard. Um....what else....no dummy (we tried yesterday for the first time, didn't want it!)...no medical problems but does get bad wind at night, really stresses him out as he farts!
I know I could buy the book but I'm scared that it will all just confuse me again!
pretty please....help!.....i love him and want to enjoy him....