Jan/Feb 05 Babies chat!

[HeatherC]

Julie, thanks for what you said about milestones.  That was very sweet, and very true.  I think we have to remember that our babies have sooo much to learn and they learn different things at different times.  It's true that one day we'll wish they'd just sit still for a minute!  My 20 mo old nephew was run, run, running all around one day.  He took a fall onto his bottom, and his dad said, "well, that's the longest he's sat all day."  Our babies are healthy, adorable, and well-adjusted, and that's all that really matters.

I was just thinking this morning about possibly needing to wake Kelsey from sleeping 2 hours in the morning nap so that her afternoon nap would be longer.  Then, she woke after 30 minutes and won't go back to sleep.  So much for that.  But, in the event that she resumes a 2 hr am nap, is that what I should do?  I think it was Tarri that went through this.   :?:

[diyasmom]

Thank you all for the compliments. The hard part now for me is to choose only a few of those pics of Diya :wink:  I wanted to share a scary incident which happened yesterday! DH was walking near a doorway while holding Diya and her elbow brushed against it. She started crying real bad and I was wondering why would she cry for such a thing and she usually never cries much for such things. And DH checked for a fracture in the shoulder and hands and elbow. Every time, he moved the elbow she was crying and we thought that it will get better and she'll forget after a nap. She refused to go to sleep and I was holding her with tears rolling down my eyes. DH felt very bad that it happened because of him and she wanted to suck her thumb very badly, but she couldn't move her hands. Finally after 2 hrs, we took her to our ped friend and she asked us to go the ER for an X-ray because she was not sure if it was nursemaid's elbow pain or a fracture. When the X-ray came negative I didn't know what to do only and the ER doc tried to fold her hands and did something when we heard a pop sound. The partial dislocation of her elbow(nursemaid's elbow) was treated thankfully. She started moving her arms again and I realized how much we take for granted of the little things in life like their hand and leg movements! I was just hugging her the whole evening! The doc told us that this could happen again and just asked us to be careful while lifting her(to lift her under the shoulders and not with her hands) She'll grow out of it by 4 years and it is a very common thing among toddlers between 1 and 4 years. I feel so emotional while even typing it. So, please forgive the typos or grammar!
Michelle: How is Kinlagh doing? Didn't hear from you after the choking incident! Hopefully all of you are doing well!

JulieG: You had asked about entertaining the baby in the car. I play with her or give her a couple of her toys so that she could play with it. Every small trip is atleast an hour for us and so we usually have toys. Last weekend, I forgot to take them and had to entertain her with her bottles. Also, try to travel around Matty's naptime!

Christine: Does Leah get up from her back? Diya gets up from her tummy!

Jaime: I can't believe that I am a Mom too. It's funny that I feel am a babysitter too waiting for the Mom! Also, just like Asher, she says Mamamama and not Mama! I'll take anything which I get:)

Julieb: Glad that Asher didn't spit up much y'day! I have the same question as Branwen! Do you feed him finger food separately? Diya is very much interested in finger and table food and she refuses the baby food. Should I start giving her our food? She likes some salt in her food and am scared about her getting any kidney problems!

Branwen: Have you used a halo sleepsack before this? If so, how do you like the grobag in comparison? I want to find out before buying it.

Hazel: Diya sleeps badly if we put her to bed later than usual!

Heather: That is so cute about Kelsey waving. I keep teaching Diya how to wave and she looks at me with a puzzled look! I think you can try waking her up 1.5 hrs after the nap!

Diya just woke up from her 45 min nap:( Will try to read the previous page and answer later!
Vidya

[herbst99]

Vidya Ooh poor baby! My sister (she is 9yrs younger than me) used to get a dislocated shoulder just a easily. I can still remember her crying. (I practised being a mom on her - my mom would put her in the bathroom to CIO and I would fetch her and give my mom a stern talk - I was 9!!!) Don't worry though - she will grow out of it!!
JulieB How nicely put! I wish my "language" was so put together. and I totally agree. I know some people who CONSTANTLY compare our kids - they are all different. Lise is great at gross motor but her fine motor is a little slower - because she is so busy getting around - so at one point it will even out.
It is great that Asher is not on meds for reflux. We had a VERY hard time with Lise - she is not a "spitter" with reflux but has silent reflux ... so she will spit up and swallow it back - causing even more burning and pain. The tipoff to us was the CONSTANT hiccups after meals and later on I could hear the spit up coming up - she has a kind of moaning sound she makes. so we are still on Losec - no Gaviscon - Anti reflux formula. We did try to stop the Losec with disasterous effects. Will try again at 7mths.
Jaime I have - ooh my goodness - moments to! Saturday my dh and I had turns for sunday afternoon sleep (for US!!) I woke up after an hour and half and thought - ooh I miss this! but then dd came in and all was worth it!
Chrsitine I hope you enjoy the book - the first part goes into some detail on sensory issues and then the latter part is more on the spesific age groups. TODDLER SENSE has just been released but I haven't read it yet - still to much I don't know of babies!!! Lise has 2 taglets - I usually have it handy as a sleep cue - when she gets it it is time to start calming down and seem to work well. There is a scratchy label sewn onto the taglet but I just used a small scissor and cut it off.
Cannot help with the sitting up - we are still at the turning issues - so hoping we will get that worked out before she starts sitting up in bed!!
Us We are starting swimming tomorrow ... ooh I have to wear swimwear!! ooh goodness me. Am looking forward to it - If bathing is an indication that she might like water - swimming will be LOTS of fun!!
Also I have decided to try Wake to sleep tonight to try and get past the 5:10 am wake up - so please think of us

Finger foods I am hoping you all can post what you lo is eating as finger foods?
I would appretiate some guidance in this matter - we don't have such a big selection of baby foods so - Veggie puffs?? etc - we don't have!
Well goodnight
Nikki

[Daniel's mummy]

Nikki - finger foods we have tried are: cheerios, rusks, peas, bread, chunks of banana, peach, pear and apple (all very ripe and soft). Oh and bread sticks.

Have fun swimming.  I was thinking of going tomorrow too. The thought of getting into a swimming costume always puts me off. :oops:

[Kinlagh's Folks]

Hello again!  I'll try to keep up now that things are starting to get back to normal in our lives.

Everyone - Too many achievements to mention.  Congrats to all the new wavers, dancers, rollers, sleepers, crawlers, talkers....  What a busy bunch we have!

Hazel - Welcome to the group!  Love the camping pics and 8 teeth!  WOW!  And I too am a fan of the chubby cheeks and thighs.  As has been said in the past, it's hard not to just take a bite right out of them!!!

Joanne - A welcome to you too!  As for what my parents think of my BW ways, they think I'm doing a great job and tell me that all the time.  So nice to have their support.  I don't think they're real surprised that we're on such a tight routine as I'm just that kind of person and just loved Tracy's methods as soon as I read them.

Christine - Had our 2nd attempt at chicken this week and it did go better than the first attempt.  Kinlagh didn't gag quite as much, and did eat a couple of spoonfuls.  Hang in there!

JulieB - Oh the milestones for Asher.  Way to go!!!  Good luck with the birth announcments - although by now you may already have them out.  Congrats!  I cheated and had my parents create them and send them out.  I'm stealing your signature idea - adding the website to mine too.  As for the sores on Asher's thumbs, Kinlagh went through the same thing and just figured it out eventually that "ouch that hurts so I won't do that".  No problems anymore.

Branwen - Glad to hear both you and Eirwen are ok.  What a scare!

Deborah - Love, love, love the cheerios pic.  Maya looks so proud of herself (as she should be)

Happy Kinlagh things:  A pro crawler and today she pulled herself up onto her knees then to standing.  She's loving her new mobility!!!  Although it's a little tougher getting her to sleep cause she's all over her crib now. 

Us - Our weekend away was a mess....a little too much to start writing about.  Plus Kinlagh is waking and I've only gotten to page 61 (still 4 more to reply to).  It's too hard taking time away from you girls.  You're so quick!!!  Gotta run, back soon I hope.

[sedona314]

Hi gang:

I was going to wait to post  until I read everything, but I dont have time. I'm only up to page 62.5 so I'll post now and try to read everything and post again!

We weighed Matty on a home scale and he is between 23.5 and 24 lbs!!!!! I know!  he is a big boy. 

Regarding clothing sizes they just dont make sense.  We have him in a range from 3-6 mos to 2T! Thats how much the clothing manufacturers vary.  the weird thing is they vary within their own lines too.  For example, he usually wears 12-18 month in Carters, but he still fits into his 9 month carters.  I always buy bigger because the clothing shrinks so much.  The other day i ordered 2T jammies  from one manufacturer (that tends to run small) and it is so small it fits my friends baby who is Matty's age and about 18 lbs! So I dont feel at all embarrassed shopping different sizes.

Our news:  MATTY IS CRAWLING!!! Full blown all over the place crawling.  We are very excited.  Now I have to look into finding a play pen bigger than the pak and play. I've been looking at those corales, but then you've got to buy carpeting to go under them - any ideas?

I need to know everyone's favorite music for their babies.  So far we have a wonderful lullabies CD for sleep time, but we keep trying different CD's for kids and are not liking them.   Please list your lo's favorites for us.

Joanne:   Welcome!  How wonderful you were able to have a home birth.  I had a planned C-section cause of a fibroid blocking the way. The good news was that at least I didnt have to labor for hours only to end up with a C-section.  I also worked out about 4 days a week and kept everything toned.  When the doc was cutting me he exclaimed what great abs i have!! LOl, he said it would ahve been great for a vaginal delivery, but it just made it difficult for the C-section.  NOw Im having a heck of a time getting my body back into shape.

Tammy:  We seem to be on similar schedules. Im still mostly keeping the late nap as Matty gets tired.

Nikki: Thanks for the suggestions. I will try the rescue remedy.  I take it myself, dont know why I didnt think of that for Matty.

Deborah:  Great picture. Thanks for the travel tips.  Are you in Florida too?

Jaime:  We are thinking of getting a small condo in Orlando in order to have someplace to evacuate to in summers, then we can rent it out in winter. Any ideas on a good location?

Hazel: as I said before, Matty is almost 24 lbs!  He is pretty tall and solid too and has big chubby thighs, which I'm rather fond of.  we like him just fine at his weight, although he does get heavy to carry around!  As a matter of fact, Im afraid he is going to have outgrown his exersaucer soon (he is standing tall in it) and then what will I do!!!

Branwen, Eirwin is not fat, she is beautiful.  People really are strange with all their opinions.  And Im so glad she is alright. That fall must have been so scary.  The lady I almost hired who had BW training told me that P/U is the way to go now, so you are doing the right thing.  GOOD LUCK and hugs.

Thitz:  Thanks for the car advice and the senior comment.  As a matter of fact thanks to everyone who said I wasnt a senior.  I am really fine with my age but this board tends to be particularly young, so I am senior here, and thats okay, you all are such wonderful support!   :lol:

Christine: How is it going balancing work and baby?  Im only part time but I still have trouble.  Last week we had a training all week and I was sooooooooooo tired!  Glad I only have to be in the office two long days a week.

I hope I havent forgotten anyone.  I will be trying to catch up more on the posts.

Hugs to everyone and if you are having a hard day, remember we all are with you and hang in there.

JulieG - Senior Mommy

[julieb]

Asher woke up at 5:40 this morning!   :shock:   I tried changing and feeding him, but he wasn't having it.  Then had DH give it a go.  He even tried rocking him!  Then I had him bring him into bed so I could feed the other side.  But of course, that was far too fascinating so he was up for the day.   :roll:   Then he took a not-so-great morning nap and a terrible afternoon nap.  He was down for the night at 6:00!  :shock:   Guess we'll give that earlier bedtime a go sooner than later!  :lol:   What's weird is it doesn't seem like separation anxiety.  Maybe teeth, but the remedies don't work at all (and I see/feel absolutely nothing in his mouth).   :?

Branwen:  Thanks, you're just too kind!  You know, a couple people told me that they took crawling out of some of the books.  Some no longer consider it a milestone since so many babies go straight to walking!
I feed finger foods first since this is what I've read.  Then when he appears to be loosing interest or frustrated, I spoon feed.  He may grab a few more chunks here and there though.  Or I pick them up and give them off my finger.  We dodge around as well.  I usually wait for him to look up and notice me waiting with a spoon, then he'll open his mouth.

Heather:  I noticed on days Asher goes longer than 2 hours in the morning, he takes a short afternoon nap.  However, he rarely goes past 1.5 hrs in the morning anymore.

Vidya:  I'm so glad you figured out what was wrong with Diya!  A lot of babies start refusing baby food at this point.  Try chunkier kinds or making your own.  Or just start mashing up some of your food! 

Nikki:  Yes, that does sound painful!  It bothered Asher until he was about 4 months.  We tried a bunch of stuff to improve it, then finally decided to visit a pediatric gastro... to explore our options.  But they had an 8 week waiting period!  We started to see a naturopathic doctor instead (which didn't help), but ended up letting it go when he no longer seemed like he was in pain.   :roll:   So who knows?  DH takes meds for acid reflux as well
Since Asher doesn't eat many foods yet, we just use soft and ripe foods of what he does.  Ripe banana and pear chunks, peas, and cooked cold sweet potato chunks.  We've also tried avocado and rice balls, but he doesn't like those foods alone.

JulieG: We love Disney so we have several Disney Classics CDs as well as ABC's by They Might Be Giants, Muppet Show's Greatest Hits, various Animaniacs, Veggie Tales, and Laurie Berkner (kinda folksy kids songs).

[branwen]

Hi everyone- I need to vent.  Our non day naps are now affecting our nights.  Yesterday sucked so much :cry: we had a 4am start of day and then she would not take her afternoon nap and there was a house showing so I had to be gone until 5 so she was awake 4+ hours and crying so much in the car.  Then after a 6pm bedtime she woke at 8:30pm- I did PU/PD until 9 and then because I had taken a sleep aid my dh took over but at 11pm I was still awake because she was still crying. The thing is my dh abandons the method for rocking, then he took her out of the sleep bag, then he wanted my help for giving her motrin, etc.  Then when we finally got her to sleep he comes complaining to me how PU/PD doesn't work and that I keep changing everything on him.

First- I'm trying to get her off the motrin.  It has been too long with that.  She didn't get any yesterday until after that 2 hrs of dh AP'ing it.  Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by stopping the motrin!  I mean it has been 2 weeks or more now...I just feel like I can't keep giving it to her.

Second- after a post elsewhere I think I need to adjust her schedule to improve her naps.  I have also decided that I must end her early bedtime, or move it by at least a 1/2 hr.  It just isn't working...I mean I do everything from her morning wake up to the entire bedtime routine and I really need some help.  Part of why my dh is so unhelpful is because he is never here.   This is what I amtrying to do.  One of the moderators told me I need to stick to an introduction method- as in by the clock to create 2 hr naps with PU/PD.  So I guess I am going to go to the set nap route although very nervous- this is what I came up with?

6:30 wake up bf
7:45 breakfast
8:15 1st nap 2 hrs
10:30 bf
11:30 lunch
12:15 2nd nap 2 hrs
2:30 bf
4:00 cat nap if needed
5:00 dinner
5:30 storytime
5:45 bath
6:00 bf and asleep by 6:30

Third- I am trying so hard to introduce the grobag because it is getting colder here and I am afraid of fleece for various reasons but I am worrying that she hates it now after initial success I think she misses playing with her feet, rocking with them side-to-side.  I hope she will adjust and find another game to settle herself back when she wakes but when I put her in her crib in it she kicks up her feet looking for them?  what to do?

 :?: are babies core temps higher than ours?  what temps do they prefer?  could she be too hot in the bag?

Fourth- she has started falling asleep while nursing because she is so overtired from not napping...and now cries again when I remove her from the breast....

Oh, I so feel like I felt at the 4 month mark!

 :?: Is there an 8 month growth spurt?

 :?: will she ever grow out of the noise thing!  My dh is an engineer and he built me a baby sleep cycle timer, with red, yellow, green lights for when she is in different periods plus alternating deep light cycles.  It is crazy because she sometimes stirs or wakes during the red.  I love my baby timer but sometimes I find this so ridiculous!  I even shut one of my very loud cats in the back room because she seems to sleep so much lighter now and he wakes her

[Kinlagh's Folks]

OK - here I am to reply to pages 62-66.  Pfew!

JulieB - Hope Asher's naps and spit up issues are improving.  It's tough with all this extra mobility isn't it?   Is Asher choking more now too?  I find Kinlagh often chokes now - not sure if it's because of the mobility or the finger foods.  Scary either way.  Way to go Asher on the finger foods.  What a guy!

Deborah - You're probably already gone by now but "have a nice trip"!!!  Kinlagh too has the broken blood vessels on her cheeks.  Is Maya an eczema sufferer?  Kinlagh's dermatologist said babies with sensitive skin are likely to have these but they will fade/disappear as they get older.

Tammy - Hope Ethan is ok. 

Debra - Hope your two are feeling better soon too.  Sounds tiring!   Could Olivia's early waking be due to her cold?  Maybe it'll sort itself out when that passes?  Way to go on the PPD group.  That should be a big help for you.  I am truly so happy for you.

Christine - So sorry to hear about the accident.  What a terrible thing.  Young lives are so precious as we all know even more now as mothers.

Tarri - My nephew didn't start crawling until 10 mos +.  So not to worry, all in due time.  She's probably just working on something else right now.  And when the milestones start, they just don't stop - just ask ASHER!!!!

Jaime -

separation anxiety - comes and goes around here.... thankfully right now it's going.

  Ditto!!!!

Chubby babies - I find it funny when people comment how big Kinlagh is and then they feel bad so start back peddling by saying things like "but she looks so healthy like that" or "she'll thin out once she starts crawling, walking".  Funny, but I really don't mind her being a big girl.  Plus her chances of being tiny are slim to none, since her parents are 5'10" and 6'4" !!!!

Walkers - For those of you that mentioned your lo's are using walkers, pardon my ignorance but what are walkers?  I do know of something that we used to call walkers, but those are "illegal" now and aren't sold anywhere as far as I know.  (I'm living proof, fell down the stairs in a walker at 2 years old - Yikes!!)

Clothing size - Kinlagh is all over the map too.  She's still wearing 2 pairs of pants that are 3 mos.  They're really short on her, but have a great waistband.  I find alot of pants have really tight waist bands on them so Kinlagh ususally has to wear bigger ones (18 mos +) then we'll roll them up if too long.  So yes, we have 3 mos up to about 18 mos in her current wardrobe.  I haven't even bought anything for winter yet, cause I have no idea what size she'll be in 2-3 months. 

US - Kinlagh just hasn't been the same since we got back from our trip.  Had a couple of wakeful nights and limited naps with her at the hotel.  She now wakes 2-3 times in the night crying, but never long or bad enough for us to go in.  Just very unlike her.  Hope this settles soon.  We're working on the clapping and waving like the rest of you.  She's able to bang cups together and she has waved at herself a few times (with her little pudgy fingers - too cute!)  I think Kinlagh officially has her first word.  She's a pro at saying Mama.  And she yells it when I leave the room to get me to come back.  Or she's said mama when reaching out to me when in DH's arms.  So yes, I think that makes it official that mama equals me!  Really could bring a tear to my eye!  Question - does any of your lo's hiccup when they giggle?  When Kinlagh really starts to giggle, she'll always hiccup. 

DH and I went to a wine-tasting this weekend and oh boy, I forgot that I'm not the same person I was before Kinlagh.  I had the worst hangover on Sunday.  Thank goodness DH is so great with Kinlagh (and doesn't get hungover) so he did it ALL on Sunday.  I think I fed her once.  Plus she had a nap with me on the couch cause she started pulling up in her crib and we hadn't yet lowered it.  Too scary to put her in there until we lowered it that afternoon. 

Darn, Kinlagh is waking and I've only made it to page 64.  Still a couple to go!  Will try during nap #2.  See you later.

[Kinlagh's Folks]

Vidya - What BEAUTIFUL pictures.  Love the family ones, but the ones of Diya are amazing.  What a gorgeous girl!  And sorry to hear about your scare.  But thanks for posting as it's a reminder to all of us to be careful when handling our little ones.  Hope Diya's doing better.  Thanks also for your concern for us.  Kinlagh's choking was a sign for us to stay home which I didn't listen to.  I still haven't posted about the weekend cause it was just too crazy.  But if anything, it did help with the separation and starnger anxiety that was happening lately.  She was babysat by friends for 10 minutes here and there in their room while I showered in mine, etc and she was fine with them.  Very nice to see.  And Kinlagh did very well in the car (2.5 hour trip).  We cheated and brought a DVD which she watched when she got fussy on the ride up.  But whatever works I say!

Branwen - Way to go on the recent naps Eirwen.  You be good for your mama Eirwen!!  Oops, just read that you had a bad night and so far today.  I find it tough with my DH sometimes too.  He gets really frustrated cause he's trying to do it "my" way, but he finds then when he just gets the confidence to do it "his" way, he's much better off.   So maybe when dh is in charge, just let him try whatever works for him and you focus on trying to get your sleep!!  I must say that dh has recommended Ferberizing Kinlagh twice so far when pu/pd isn't working and it's worked both times.  I think she was getting too used to mommy rescuing her and she needed to be reminded how to fall asleep independently.  As for the motrin break, I say GO FOR IT!  I use it for a day or two only for teething and I'd say 2 weeks is a little long.  So take a break and see how it goes.  A couple of comments on your EASY routine.  I found splitting my bottle and solids very tough as it took up my whole day.  By having them within a 1/2 hour of each other, there's alot more breaktime for you and fore Eirwen.  My second thought is the 2nd A time would be only 2 hours if she has the 2 hour nap you're planning.  That seems a little short to me - but you know your girl best.  Kinlagh can ususally stay up 2.5-3 hours during her 2nd A time.  Just take a breather, stop reading if you can, and just trust your judgement as a mommy.  You're doing a great job and Eirwen is just going through a transition.  The best advice I received in the early weeks was to stop reading all my books and just trust myself.  I have never looked back since and Kinlagh I think is a pretty happy baby.  Good luck with everything and you'll always have US!!!

Tammy - Pfew that Ethan is virus free so far.  Keeping our fingers crossed for you.

Debra - Wow, you have some mama sounds.  Yay!!  And sounds like crawling is not too far away.

Nikki - Sorry if you've already explained it, but what is a weighted blanket?  What's the purpose?  And as for starting the "NO" with Lise, I'd go for it.  It's already working with Kinlagh after only a couple of days trying.  She only cried once but that was cause both DH and I yelled NO at the same time which startled her.  But otherwise, it's kept her away from one plant stand and our heaters.  (training for the winter months when they'll be hot hot hot!!!)  Finger foods - we don't have veggie puffs either (or at least I haven't found them yet) so Kinlagh is eating Arrowroot cookies, pieces of toast, pears and peaches so far.  Tried cheerios once but didn't go well - too long to soften.

JulieB - The Melting Pot?  You lucky girl.  Although I still have never been to one (maybe in November), I keep hearing the best things about it.  And a spit up is more of a dribble, where puke/vomit is more of a projectile thing.  So yes, we all prefer spit up!!!!  And hope you get that nap/bedtime thing worked out.  They're such a mystery and they just keep changing!!!  And funny "little man" stories.  I am happy with my little girl.  Although she's often reaching down there when i do diaper changes too.

Heather - I laughed at your camera dropping story.  We think we're so smart getting the fancy stuff on video, until, oops!!!! :shock:  :shock:

Christine - Yay to no more catnaps.  Good for little Leah!   

Jaime - I always step back and can't believe I'm a mom.  It's so strange cause I really don't think of myslef any different then 2 years ago when it was just us.  Very bizarre, overwhelming and yet wonderful feeling.

Mommy vent - I'm on my own for 5 days and am dreading it (DH will be away til Sunday).  I've been needing some mommy time as of late and I'm sure this will put me over the edge.  I just hate how DH appreciates every little thing like Kinlagh's fingerprints on the mirror when all I see is another little mess to clean.  Just wish I could have 1 or 2 days to miss her.  And as others have said before, don't get me wrong, I adore my little angel, but I just would like a little break.  KWIM?

YAY, I made it to page 66!!!  Now that I"m caught up, I'll have to stay on top of things.  Take care ladies.

[Leah's Mom]

  Funny, but I really don't mind her being a big girl.  Plus her chances of being tiny are slim to none, since her parents are 5'10" and 6'4" !!!!

I here ya! 5'9 and 6'4 here too. But sometimes I think people think Leah is so big partially becuase her head is so big! She'll grow into it!

[diyasmom]

Hi everyone!
Diya is doing great! Thanks for all the kind words! We are having a nightwaking or rather early morning waking these days at 5'o clock. She takes a long full feed and goes back to sleep immediately. It doesn't happen everyday and only on the days when she didn't take enough solids or missed a BF session. I am so clueless about this! I don't know how to add a session when she refuses or make her eat solids when she refuses to open her mouth!
Branwen: Sorry about the rough time you are going through! Husbands only want our help in the end when they have pretty much done everything wrong and then they blame us! Your DH does exactly like my DH!I exactly know how you feel because I have been there and am there every now and then:) Only thing which I noticed about your routine is you have assumed that she will take a catnap after two 2hr naps and 12hr night sleep. Every baby is different but according to the sticky on sleep if I remember right is, 11 hrs for nighttime and 2 1.5 hr naps and a 30 min catnap. So, try to increase her A time or assume that she will take a shorter nap like 1.5 hrs. Diya is like Eirwen about not handling a long A time. Her A time is 1 hr 45 mins after wake up and 2 hr  to 2hr and 15 mins for the other ones. I have given up a routine at this point. Therefore I am not the best person to comment but it makes my day a lot easier when I don't stress about the exact routine. This is what I do these days! I try to make sure that she atleast takes a 45 min nap and go from there because she can't handle a no nap at all! I try to keep the E according to the routine and after every nap of hers, keep the A time like I mentioned and tweak it accordingly.
Stop giving the motrin! If you don't feel it is right, that's the way to go! I don't believe in giving them too much medicine also and especially if it is not helping. Teething is such a pain for them and us! I remember holding Diya all the time while she was teething and I used to hold her teething toy for her because she couldn't even put it in her mouth when she was only 4 months old! So hang in there! Try some frozen washcloths when she is awake and try PU/PD when she wakes up in the middle of her nap. PU/PD never worked for me though!
IF you think that she is too hot, touch her tummy and check if it is hot and also her ears! I remeber reading somewhere that if those parts are hot or cold, then that is how they feel! I put some thick clothes and then the sleepsack when it is too cold! Also, we keep the house really warm in winter about 74-76 degrees. She will certainly get used to the sleep sack. Give her some time and see what happens.
I have heard  about a 9 month growth spurt! I will write again after feeding diya. Right now, she is hungry and crying
Sorry about the long post
Vidya

[Tammy: Ethan & Kaden's Mom]

Vidya - I hear you about trying to "go with the flow" so to speak in regards to their routine.  It's so hard sometimes, but I think we all sometimes have to step back and take a deep breath!

Michelle - I understand about having all the mommy time in the world.  My dh usually is traveling at least Monday thru Thursday evening, so I have the week just Ethan and I.  But he started a new job a few weeks ago, and hasn't started traveling yet, so he's been home.  That's another vent... :roll:  :wink:

Branwen - my sympathies on Eirwen's trials.  I am right there with you, babe!  I think our schedule is currently getting some tweaking - Ethan style!  Not the kind I prefer!

Julie - sounds like Asher is tweaking up his own schedule too, at least one day at a time!  I think all our little ones are trying to trip us up right about now!

Us - well, good news is that Ethan never developed hand, foot and mouth.  And he is finally over his cold.     Other news is that I think he's finally gotten into the actual teething, at least I hope.   :roll:  :?  He has a constant runny nose the past few days (and it's not from his cold anymore), runs a slight fever sometimes, gnaws on everything in sight, sometimes cries when it's time to eat... I hope this is teething.  It's very hard for me to see or feel anything at this point, as he screams bloody murder every time I try to feel for teeth.   :cry:

He has also taken to waking up during the night, usually just once a night.  I usually df him around 10 pm, the past two nights he's woken up screaming anywhere between 9 and 9:45.  Then, he's woken up screaming at 1:30 Sunday night, and on Saturday night at 3:30.  Not sure what is up with this.  Sunday night I calmed him down and rocked him for a few minutes, then put him in his crib, and patted his back for a couple of minutes while he was settling.  Do you guys think this is okay?  I don't want to get in a bad habit here - but I don't really know what else to do.  Rocking calms him (he's not falling asleep when I do that, just calming down from full-on screaming).  I tried multiple times to put him in his crib and leave, but he'd start the scream.  Finally the last time I put him down, he cried a bit, but I just put my hand on his back, and he settled after a couple of minutes.  Then he slept the rest of the night.

I know that I should trust my instincts about what to do for him, but I'm paranoid due to reading so much about accidental parenting, that I don't want to get stuck in that rut!  So, any suggestions or advice would be welcome regarding these nightwakings.  Not sure if it is teeth, separation anxiety, or what.  BTW, he's eating plenty during the day, so he's not hungry at these times.

Geez, didn't mean for this to be so long.  Sorry bout that!   :oops:

[Schae]

Hi there

am capped and checking in from a friends place. impossible for me to keep up with you ladies! will speak on 1st October when i'm uncapped!

[Kinlagh's Folks]

Tammy - Definitely sounds like teething to me.  Good luck!!!

Sunday night I calmed him down and rocked him for a few minutes, then put him in his crib, and patted his back for a couple of minutes while he was settling. Do you guys think this is okay?

  Sounds perfect to me.  I would just make sure that before going in, that he can't settle himself.  I think that's where accidental parenting would come in.  (if you rush to settle him before he tries to settle himself)  If he can't then that I would say what you're doing is an equivilant of pu/pd then pat/shh.  I'm no pro, but that's more or less what I do when Kinlagh is crazy and won't go to sleep for naps/bed, etc.

Hi Schae - Looking forward to hearing from you.