hi Kim. I'd suggest maybe transitioning to one nap? I found Olivia did start sleeping better through the night & was able to self soothe herself through the night wakings. Yes she still wakes 0-3 times per night, but now she takes care of this on her own, unless there are tummy, teeth or blanket issues.
Olivia goes through her phases, was happy chatty for a while 9-13mos upon waking, now the miserable bear again...not fun or doesn't help getting the day off to a positive start. We just try to get her mind of her misery by being "quietly silly & maybe get a giggle out of her"...sometimes it works. I think maybe our lo's are just very outspoken babes & feel the need to share their every emotion with us, no matter what time of day. this is frustrating of course, but lets also note our own temperaments too. I know I'm whiny when tired or just not feeling like a hallmark card in the morning, even if i supposedly had a good nights sleep, so I just believe I should be happy Olivia shares her feelings rather than not & this will help our relationship as she matures into a little girl, then a young lady. I never want her to be afraid to tell me anything, so if this is an example of her feeling 'comfort & secure' by telling me how she feels (via whining/screaming/frustration
, I'll accept it & not read too much into it. (Did any if that make sense to anyone else but me?
) Anyhow, I've noticed if there's a cold or milestone, developmental, memory of some sort, teeth growth spurt/growing pains/hunger, especially when one or more of these issues are at play, Olivia is usually tired/grumpy upon waking, sometimes affecting most parts of the day- is a side effect of a mentioned issue - which we are constantly trying to make better. Olivia generally sleeps 10 hrs at night with one 2 hr 15min nap. Only if she is having a 'grumpy' day, nap will be 2.5-3hrs long, otherwise she will not be ready for bed at the appropriate time.
I'm not sure this helps, but know that you are not alone.