Oh, Ellie! I'm so sorry you had such a rough night! You're really been through the ringer, haven't you? I don't have any suggestions about the bottle use...you might want to give it a couple of days to make sure she's latching well on you, so that she doesn't get confused? I agree, it would be a shame if you couldn't use it at all, especially since your dh is keen. Keep us posted on how you're doing, please!