Thank you both for your hasty & helpful suggestions, really appreciate that there's this great supportive community online...! My confidence has been very shaken & it means a lot to know there are people out there who care enough to take the time to help...I did take a look at the PU/PD board last night & plan to continue visiting there as well, wasn't quite sure where to post my initial query...
I'd love to add soothing music (any must-have albums suggestions?) to the routine, not sure where to implement...Here's what we do now:
- say something like "you look sleepy, are you ready for your nap?" as we're heading for his room
- lower blinds & say goodbye to "mr. sunshine"
- settle into easy chair & read a few stories
- try to have a lullabye here but he starts wriggling
- carry him to crib (still singing) hugging
- put down saying "mommy's putting you in your crib for a little rest, see you when you wake up"
(bedtime routine is as above, but nurse & brush teeth b/4 stories)
I'm thinking that Andrew's initial morning wake up is to early for him, he's been waking with a short cry after 10 - 11 hours of sleep...I ususally wait it out for a while & see if he'll get back to sleep on his own, afraid that if I go in there it'll be too stimulating & he won't go back down...On occasion it works & he sleeps a for 1/2 hour - 1 hour longer...The times it doesn't work, I get him up & nurse him as usual, but he shows classic tired signals (hair pulling, yawns, eye rubbing, etc.), this was the case today...I kept him up, read a few stories, he fussed through a diaper change, played for a tiny bit & fought my attempt to get him in his high chair for breakfast (I assume b/c he was too tired)...So, I skipped his breakfast & went into the nap routine & put him down (per below paragraph)...Do you think I should have just done PD when he first woke up this morning...? If so, would you suggest I pick him up once for comforting b/4 starting PD...?
Mimi, I followed your suggestion of just the PD for Andrew's AM nap & he went down in 1/2 hour (25m of PD time), big "whew" of relief for me...He woke up exactly 45m later (still tired) & I did PD with him for 2 hours w/ periods of crying/whining, high activity & quiet...Then it was "time" for his next nursing feed so I picked him up & started the E.A.S.Y. cycle...Not sure if that was the right thing to do, but instinct told me to go ahead & feed him...
He went down in 10 minutes this afternoon (only 5 minutes of PD time), woke up 1/2 hour later & self soothed w/in 4 minutes, back down for another hour...Still woke up fussy/tired at 4:00, but I got him up anyway (wasn't sure if it was worth it for either of us to go through a PD session if it took too long & would possibly affect his going down at bedtime...Again, don't know if I made the right call...He was tired & touchy & still took 45 minutes to go down (but very little whining/crying, just a lot of activity & rolling around)...
Thanks again & my apologies for the long-windedness, I just have so many questions while I'm getting my "whisperer" sea legs...
Very best regards, Portia
PS: Haven't gotten acclimated to all the abbreviations yet, what's "HTH"...?