I totally agree with you and thank you so much for your reply. Here's an update from my last post. Sunday, I decided to try Deb's approach to extending the naps, and maybe awake time. So, she woke up at 4:30a, took 4oz and went back to sleep. Next, she woke up for the day at 7:45am. I know, I should've woken her up, but I didn't think about it till after. So the day went:
E 4:30a 4oz
S till 7:45am
E 8:15am 5oz (surprising me that she ate that much)
A winddown in her room around 9:15a
S 9:45am (10:15am, went in to observe what was happening. Nothing happened for a little while, but I knelt below the crib so if she opened her eyes she couldn't see me. She is horizontal in the crib at the moment. Then I placed my right forearm on her legs and my arm and hand resting on her chest. After a few minutes, she spit the paci out, and I retrieved it. Then she did a big jolt almost exactly 45minutes, but didn't fully wake up. I put the paci in her mouth and had my hand still resting on her, and she went back to sleep! Hooray. She slept for 1 1/2 hours!)
E 12pm
A
S 1:35pm ( little shorter awake, but she seemed tired. We did the same winddown in her room, though I'm not crazy about it because her room is small and there's not much space to hang out.) At around 40minutes into the nap, I did the same thing, and extended it again! She slept for 1 1/2 hours.
E 3:30pm
A
S 5:00pm (30min nap)
E 6pm
A
S 7:15pm
She woke crying though about an hour later. NOt sure why. Then I wanted to DF her, but slept thru it! I set a timer but must've turned it off. Then today went:
E 2am 4oz
S till 6:15am (though I heard her earlier)
E 6:30am 5oz
A
S 7:35am (she seemed really sleepy). Extended the nap about 8:15 or so, and she slept for 2 1/2 hours!
E 10am 4oz
A
S 11:40am (I wanted to keep this nap short cuz we had to go to physical therapy at 1pm)
Awake 12:40pm and off to PT.
Awake unfortunately till 2pm.
E 2pm in car, 4oz, and fell asleep
A 2:30pm at home
S 2:50pm (I put her straight to bed once we got home because I knew she was really tired. And, I don't know if it was me, or what but I tried to extend the nap again, and she slept for almost 2 hours.)
E 5:15pm 5oz spit up some and didn't seem incredibly hungry.
Bath at 6:15pm, though I know she was already tired. Hubby wants his time with her, so we have to wait till he gets home.
Books till 6:45pm
S 7pm
Now tonight I am definitely going to DF her, around 10:30-11pm. And see how that goes. But another problem is that when she wakes in the night, I change her diaper and it's soaking wet. I think it is waking her up, but there's not much I can do about it. Any suggestions? I know this was so long, but thank you so much for helping me out. I know the routine isn't exactly regular. I'm hoping it will become more regular. Do you think we are on the right track?