Thank you all for offering your input. Last night my daughter fell asleep while nursing, so I put her to bed for the night and she did her usual, she opened her eyes and went right to sleep.
Although, she woke up at 1:30am crying, I waited a bit, went in and picked her up. She calmed immediately with rocking so I started PU/PD with her. I PD as soon as she was calm. She does not pull herself up to stand yet. I did this until 4:15am and I caved! I was in tears. We kept my husband awake, but fortunately my son slept through it. I rocked her and she was out in five minutes and slept until 8:15am.
I realize I must start off putting her down for the night with PU/PD and do this if she wakes in the middle of the night, but would it be horrible if I just rocked her for naps? I don't have a lot of time during the day because I don't have anyone to look after my son aside from Sunday's when my husband is home.
Would this situation be too confusing for her? PU/PD at night, rocking for naps?
I am struggling with changing our bedtime routine because she goes down so well, I am very nervous about starting PU/PD at this time, especially when I had so much trouble last night. She only wakes in the middle of the night occasionally and it is usually when teeth or an ear infection are on the way.
Thank you again. I so much want my little girl to sleep well and keep the peace in the family.