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Offline sacmommy

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19-mo old talks for hours in crib, often skips naps
« on: August 31, 2005, 21:18:20 pm »
I'm wondering if anyone has advice for me. My 19-mo-old daughter will hang out in her crib for up to 2 hrs or more chatting and playing, and not sleeping, even when she's exhausted! If she's had a good 2-3 hr nap during the day, then she often will do this at night as well! So some days she gets no nap, other days she gets 3 hrs.

I am trying to just leave her for 2 hrs, and then if she doesn't nap get her up and put her to bed at night a bit earlier (at which time she goes right to sleep). But it stresses me out that she doesn't get a nap, and I feel like I plan every day around this nap just to be disappointed.

Do you think I should just go with her flow, and accept that she won't nap every day? Or should I go in and help her to sleep (this is what my husband does)?

Here's our schedule:

6 - Wakes up
12/12:30 - Down for Nap
7/7:30 - Down for night (earlier if nap missed)
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« Reply #1 on: September 01, 2005, 02:06:24 am »
No real advice for you - just wanted to sympathise - my dd does the same thing!  Except she's now in a single bed, so can get up and play anywhere in her room.  I just try and leave her for the 2hrs, and figure at least she's having a rest.  Sometimes though she gets really upset, and then I just have to end nap time.  Usually she'll be ok though.  She hasn't (yet) done it for more than two days in a row, and only does this at nap time (bedtime is too dark I think!).
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« Reply #2 on: September 07, 2005, 19:48:42 pm »
I'm so glad it's not just me!  I expected Gracie's routine to change when I had our ds 18 weeks ago but we've gone from two naps to none.  Sometimes she'll sit quite content in her crib chatting and other times she'll just cry and cry.  I'm coming round to thinkig that maybe it's my desire for her to have a sleep rather than her need to have a sleep.  It's so frustrating though when you can see how tired she is. 

I often wonder what she's chatting about; she seems to have so much to say!!  I have to say she seems perfectly happy and I guess that's the main thing.
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« Reply #3 on: September 07, 2005, 20:03:27 pm »
Tyler went through this for a couple of wks recently, and it drove me nuts! I stuck with our normal routine, and if he decided not to nap, I'd just put him to bed earlier. I didn't do anything different to help him sleep because I didn't want to be stuck with new bad habits. If he skipped his nap, oh well! It ironed itself out and now he's back to normal...hang in there!
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« Reply #4 on: September 07, 2005, 20:24:57 pm »
my dd does this also but i just leave her to it.... atleast im still getting that much deserved break from her :)  she seems to be quite happy in the cot so i just leave her. i only get her up if she seems distressed.

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« Reply #5 on: September 07, 2005, 22:15:55 pm »
Thanks, everyone. Mostly, I just needed some affirmation! My husband is not very tolerant about the missed naps (he's able to get dd down in moments - it's irritating!) So it makes me a little insecure about my strategy - just leave her for up to 2 hrs and then get up. It's so tempting to intervene, and sometimes I do (ahem, today!), especially when we have things later in the day and so an early bedtime is not convenient.

Also, my dd has been sick for the past week, so I've been doing everything possible to get her to sleep so that she can get better.

I still feel stressed when she misses, but I do think it's best. When I do get in the habit of intervening, the constant babbling seems to creep into nighttime bedtime too. I think she's expecting us to come in, because sometimes we do (esp. if dh is home).
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« Reply #6 on: September 15, 2005, 21:30:06 pm »
OK, I need some help. I think I'm being inconsistent, which reduces my possibility of getting regular naps. Yesterday, my dd started crying after about 1.5 hrs in her crib at naptime; after about 15 minutes of her crying, I went in, told her to lie down, waited 2 minutes and she was asleep. Today, after about 1.5 hrs, she cried for about 10 minutes, so I went in and said ok, nap time is over.

My problem is, if I let her nap after 2 hrs of playing in her crib, then she starts her nap when it usually ends (2 pm) which pushes her nighttime sleep and seems too irregular to me. Also, I personally think going in and standing there while she falls asleep is perhaps too much intervention. Then again, today's method (get her up after 1.5 - 2 hrs) means no nap!!

Any thoughts? Thanks!
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« Reply #7 on: September 16, 2005, 01:38:36 am »
I have found that I can now go in after 20-30min and put dd back in bed and say "It's not playing time, it's sleeping time" and then leave again.  I might have to repeat once or twice.  Before when I tried this, it just got her really worked up, but now it seems to work (touch wood!).  If she only goes to sleep at 2.30 (normally I end the nap at 3) I would let her sleep til 3.30.  This doesn't interfere with her 7pm bedtime.
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« Reply #8 on: September 22, 2005, 19:18:37 pm »
For others who have this problem, I think I'm making a breakthrough (cross my fingers!) I think I've been putting my dd down too late for her nap (between 12 and 1). Recently I've put her down between 11 and 12 and she's been going right down. I think maybe she's just really sensitive to timing and to being overtired, so once she's overtired she just plays.

Also, I normally pick up my son right before dd's nap, so it's a very stimulating time with lots of activity at the preschool, then home and down for nap. This preschool pick-up time has been ruling my schedule, but I'm trying to figure out something so I can get the nap and pick up my son at the right time!

Of course, now she's getting up earlier in the a.m.!
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« Reply #9 on: December 09, 2005, 19:38:31 pm »
I am now having this same exact problem.  Some days she starts yawning at 11ish and I put her in at 11:30-12 and she's out like a light for a few hours.  Other days she has no tired signs so I put her in by 12:30 and she talks and plays for hours.  I go in after 30 minutes and tell her "it's not play time, it's sleep time.  Go to sleep" and usually that works BUT the nap is only for 40 minutes then. 

Should I consistently put her in earlier...even without sleepy signs?  Did your child outgrow this?  Carmela is 19 months old which it looks like that is when  you had your issue as well.  PLEASE HELP!
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« Reply #10 on: December 12, 2005, 04:42:15 am »
Hi Jackie, I would say that you're lucky to get her to sleep after you go in, even if it's a 40 min nap. I guarantee if my dd doesn't go to sleep right away, I'm lucky to get a nap. She just gets herself all excited. I would intervene as little as possible if you're successful most of the time. My thought is that our goal is to institutes as few bad habits as possible.

My dd seemed to grow out of this a bit back in September, but she's back in this mode now due to her asthma medicine (I think).

Regarding time, I'm in the same boat. I don't know. I move my dd's naptime around, partly for convenience and partly b/c she wakes at different times. But whenever I do a late nap these days I am unsuccessful - so maybe if you can guess on days she may not be as tired, give her lots of activity and still put her down in the 11:30 timeframe.
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